Stepparent Advocacy Group
I'm new to the site and I am looking for a Stepparent Advocacy Group. The laws in Missouri significantly disempower stepparents from any sort of advocacy in terms of the parenting plan or responsibilities attached to the parenting plan yet we are held accountable to its entirety all the while not being considered parents in a legal sense. We are, however, considered caretakers and held accountable to that level if something goes wrong and the BP is not present. On the other hand, if something goes right it is perceived as a function of the BP rather than the SP. It is enforced regulation without representation. This will never change without a concerted effort by Stepparents. So, I'm looking for a Stepparent Advocacy Group. There are none classified as such in the State of Missouri. Any assistance would be greatly appreciated.
That’s everywhere.
You have no rights as a SP. The only right you have is to get hurt. What until you take SK to the hospital.... When the tell you to step outside ....and ask if you are abusing the SC. Even though your insurance is paying for the hospital stay. The BF is dead. You have no rights there. No more the the next door neighbor.
Hard fact to face,, But that the way the law looks at it.
Not In Louisiana
We still have judges that lean towards the BM, regardless of the situation. As Harry said, you and all of us with the StepParent title have zero rights. Protect your heart....you won't even be allowed in the courtroom in most areas.
When DHs youngest son came to live with us, I had to get a legal, notarized document from our attorney to protect me and give me the "rights" I needed to get that kid's needs taken care of (my DH traveled for work on a schedule and was gone for 3-4 weeks at a time). And when he moved back with his crazy BM, I had the attorney revoke that document as I wanted ZERO responsibility for that kid when he was in BMs care.
Again, as a StepParent, you have zero rights. And the system will "turn" on you in a heartbeat just as most of society. Best to you.
I have never accepted that I have no rights.
I took every right I chose to take. No one ever told me I couldn't. Though the Judges we appeared in front of over the years of the 16yr+ CO repeated that I was "not a party to the case" which means absolutely nothing as soon as the hearing is over. The Skid was raised in my home, the one his mom and I made, as my son. He benefited from my income, I cared for him, etc... No Judge ever set foot in our home.
I engaged medical care, coordinated visitation flights, enrolled him in school, etc... When his mom (my DW) was not available to do it.
When the SpermClan overstepped, they had to deal with my DW and I together. They learned that it was a bad idea to overstep. It was decidedly too unpleasant and expensive for them to step out of line.
I also had some notable discussions with the Judges. And basically did what I chose to do anyway. As I said above, when they bang the idiot Fisher-Price wooden tool play set hammer, they have made their ruling and you can do whatever want, until the next hearing.
So, do whatever you choose.
Anyone who takes exception to that... can F-off. Particularly the blended family opposition.
IMHO of course.
I did too
But you get a dose of reality when you go to places like the hospital.. you bring your SD... You're paying for the hospital the. DR's. .. even the TV.. BUT.....BUT...L you are told please leave the room so they can question SD. Is SF sleeping with you... is SF. beating you..... do you do thing together. Like shower ?? And do you French kiss?
BP don't go through this crap. VIA. 1983. So 40 years ago
Wow. That is infuriating Harry.
I have never had those questions asked of me, nor has SS or my DW.
It's sad.. but so many kids
It's sad.. but so many kids are abused.. when my YSD broke her arm cheering.. it was sad to look around at all the caseworkers talking to people outside the kid's rooms.. parents and parent's partners.. and we even saw a few LEO's..
I guess in the end.. they are trying to help kids that may not have much voice.. and they can't tell just by looking at someone if they are abusive or not.
She's in the state of
She's in the state of Missouri. Haven't we all followed along as one of us got dragged thru hell from their backward court system? (Name please). Do t waste your time in that state. You will lose a ton of money and deal with endless frustration.
A former STalker's BM lived in MO.
The BM's 3 young children with a subsequent baby daddy were killed in a house fire.
The SS had to still visit BM while she was being investigated in the Arson that killed SS's 3 younger half sibs.
The STalker ended that marriage.
MO can be an intersting State for LEO and Court related issues. I attended HS there. My dad is a MO native.
The never ending crazy crap that comes out of MO has always boggled my mind. Though not any different than NJ, and probably most other States.