In IL what are the chances that this would happen??
My fiance's divorce was final in May. BM was awarded physical custody after a lengthy divorce battle. Fiance has visitation every other weekend and overnights 1 night a week. BM, who is bi-polar, frequently requests that we keep the kids extra nights because she is sick etc. Fiance has a 10 year old daughter from first wife that he hasn't seen in over 2 years and is 11K+ behind in child support, but that will be paid by end of the month. He also has an uncoming stint in federal prison, though we are unsure for how long yet, maximum would be 4 years. Anyways, he is insistent that he is going to fight for primary custody at some point in the future and seriously thinks that he could win. BM may not be the best, but she is taking care of them, feeding, clothing, getting them to school etc. There has been no complaints other than her mood swings and occasional outbursts. What are the chances that a judge would award him primary custody of these kids. I truly feel that he wants to fight her for them because he is angry with her, no other reason.
Is this post for real??
Is this post for real?? :?
Uugghhhh .... I know it
Uugghhhh .... I know it paints a very ugly picture, but yes, I am serious.
Why would you want to be
Why would you want to be engaged to someone who just got divorced AND is going to federal prison? This does not sound like a very good situation to be going into .
Really simple, he will never
Really simple, he will never get custody, with a record and the arrears. Even paid, it won't help. IL is very favorable to mom's. She would have to be an axe murderer and then they would still become wards of the state, before he would get them. Sorry...
I find it highly unlikely
I find it highly unlikely that a convicted felon ex con will get custody over even a mentally ill mother.
Short of BM being a serial murdering child pornographer your SO has about ZERO chance of getting custody.
I also mirror the concerns expressed by others. Find a non fellon to share your life with.
Why sign up to carry his criminal and child baggage when there are countless men out there without your SOs obvious complete lack of redeeming character?
Good luck!
Best regards.
There is no way I'd get
There is no way I'd get myself involved with someone like this. This situation has "bad news" written all over it.
Maybe there is something more to this story? But, I can't imagine anything that would make it less destructive than what it appears.