Help Me
I set down some sturdy rules for my daughter 16yr old now that school is starting back. I told her she cn't work past 9pm, only allowed to work 2 nights per week. And she has been going places and not asking and told her she had to ask from now on. I came home the next day (which was yesterday) to a note and she had moved out, the note said she didn't want to hurt me but would be moving in with my parents because they would help her with college and get a car. She will be a senior this year and 17 on her b-day 09/14. I text her ask where she was. She replied don't worry about it i'm ok, told her to come home and she said she wasn't we would talk this weekend. I call police, they find her bring her home, she was at my mom and dads, then when they got her here she started saying I mentally abuse her (which i do not) she told them she feared for her life lol, and didn't fell safe here. I don't know what my parental right are and I am waiting for a phone consultation with an attorney that is supposed to call me. Does anyone know what I should do, she's usually a good kid, she gets good grades and I am shocked by her actions and believe it's because I sat down rules she doesn't want to follow. One of my girlfriends said if she's that close to 17yrs she would ask her if she needed help packing and tell her she has made this decision and there is no revolving door, would appreciate any insight and to know if this has ever happened to anyone else. Also waiting for a visit from CPS, police tried to get me to let her go back and stay with my parents and i refused. I haven't talked to my parents in months..I do complain alot like saying things like i'm tired of only getting to clean and do laundry on my days off and that i never have any time for myself but assured her this isn't directed at her and don't feel this is mental abuse.
WTF
Why are your parents taking her in? I don't think she has a choice, you have responsibilities over her until 18 is my understanding. It does sound like she just doesn't want rules, but too bad. I am sure it is every 16 year old's dream to move out, but she is a minor. Are your parents 'contributing to delinquency of minor'?
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I dont know anything about
I dont know anything about parenting a teenager but that situation sounds very very familiar. when i was 16/17 i pretty much did the exact same thing as your daughter and my mother had your reaction - drag my ass back home by any means necessary. we spent the next two years until i turned 18 waging world war three on each other. she was miserable. i was miserable. everyone in the house was miserable, and i just kept running away anyway.
I would go to the police and
I would go to the police and ask them what you can legally do. Are your parents good people? If they are, then at least you know she's safe. She could be running away without you having a clue where she is. BUT, it seems your parents are undermining your authority and I'd have none of that. Go to the cops and have a chat with them. Have them talk to your parents. Good luck.