Has anyone been able to request no coropral punishment in a court order? ???????
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My ex I dont agree on discipline. I dont suspect abuse. But my ex will not follow my wishes on no coropral punishment. He and his wife have used it on our two sons we share equal custody. Do I have a chance to put this on our parenting plan (no coropral punishment) without proof of abuse? Please share
I have no experience with it
I have no experience with it but I'm pretty sure I have read on here about others who have had that in the CO.
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Typically, for stuff like
Typically, for stuff like that, a judge will not order it, but you can request that it is mutually agreed upon in a parenting plan that all parties follow. The judge, for the most part, will not order either parent to follow the wishes of someone else in their home during their parenting time. The same goes for having a "no overnights" clause regarding boyfriends/girlfriends. Unless both parties agree, you make the rules in your home and he makes the rule in their home.
From the comments above and
From the comments above and my own readings elsewhere on these sort of disagreements between divorced parents unless its against state law where you live or clearly abuse a judge isn't going to get involved.
The human race endured for some 20,000 years without laws against physical punishment of children and frankly I doubt if your kids won't make it. That double negative means they'll be just fine.
FYI my father spanked me once, punched me lightly once for being sassy and nothing more was needed. But I'm told I was a "difficult" child.
As a bio-parent I spanked one kid once when he almost drove his bike in front of a car. I think it was a visceral reaction to him almost getting killed. I had taught him better and you bet he learned from it.
My point being in general I agree with you, spanking isn't necessary to raise a good citizen, but sometimes it gets the point across especially if its withheld until its really really needed. I don't think this is worth fighting over - save your ammunition.
And on a related note: my
And on a related note: my kids don't have a SM, DH and I (as you old timers know) have been married since our teens, SS36 is biologically DH's nephew. If my kids DID have a SM, and she hit them? It would be on like Donkey Kong. Scorched earth.
I've seen weirder things put
I've seen weirder things put into parenting plans. Go for it, the worst that can happen is the judge says no. I would definitely not want some other woman spanking my kid.