Full custody; judge won't change 50/50 parenting time!
DH had a hearing status check today (last one was June 6th, custody awarded to him back in April). The last hearing was supposed to be September 15, but BM filed to have the judge disqualified which pushed the hearing back, so the week-on, week-on parenting time has been the same in DH was awarded custody in April.
Skids go to school near us, BM lives about 20-25 min away, so since the girls started school, their bouncing back and fourth between mom's and dad's every other week. This makes it incredibly hard to keep up with their school work and important school events because DH and BM DO NOT GET ALONG WHATSOEVER and it's just best for everyone involved that they don't speak, unfortunately. Also, BM is living with the third boyfriend she's had in the past year, in a trailer on her boyfriend's brother's property (so the kids sleep in the same fold out bed in this trailer). She also doesn't contribute financially (claims she never has any money, yet she can afford to drive 6 hours to northern washington, and take the kids to the movies and out to dinner, etc), and because of the 50/50 parenting time, DH can't go after child support.
I want to know 2 things:
1) :? WHY?!?!?! :? My friend was thinking it has something to do with BM filing the disqualification against her and the judge not wanting it to look like she was being spiteful.... but still... :? :? :? :?
2) is there ANYTHING we can do to change this?! They are self-represented and we can't afford a lawyer. 
I hate this woman with every ounce of my being. It seems like she gets away with FREAKING EVERYTHING!!!! Seriously, the only time the judge has sided with DH in court is the times she intentionally kept the kids away from him (which is how he obtained custody - she violated court ordered parenting time). GRRRRR!!!!
So he has 100% legal custody,
So he has 100% legal custody, but only 50% physical? Have you made the court aware that BM is basically homeless, living in a trailer in someone's yard, the kids don't have a room, and their school work is suffering? Get proof... pictures of her living conditions, report cards or letters from teachers, something from the kids school counselor... then ask to change visitation.
He mentioned all of it today,
He mentioned all of it today, and even with an irritated tone ("so it's okay for me to violate court orders and change girlfriends every three months and move around from house to house too?") I don't know what the hell the judge is thinking, she didn't even give a reason, she just said she's not changing it. But yes, we have every intention of getting attendance records and taking notes on homework assignments and such. Unfortunately we don't know exactly where she lives, so we wouldn't even be able to get DHS involved with a visit and eval.
It sounds like the judge
It sounds like the judge isn't changing things because this routine, so far, has been "working" for the skids. Family court judges don't like changing ANYTHING unless you can prove beyond a doubt that it is detrimental to the kids. And unfortunately, sleeping on a fold-out cot in Mom's boyfriend's trailer and not being able to talk about school work just isn't important enough for the judge.
You seriously have to be caught in the act of molesting or beating your kids before family courts will terminate your parental rights. That goes for loser BMs/BFs too. This means that, just shy of those acts, lots of harm is being done to kids and there is no way to legally remedy it.