can we move out of state?
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Dh and I have full physical custody of ss. If we wanted to move out of state at some point in the future, could BM stop us from going? In the custody agreement, she has no visitation schedule, it just says flexible and we are supposed to give her 60 days notice of any move. Im just really unclear about what she can do (and what else we are supposed to do) after we give her the 60 days notice. im also confused about how we are supposed to document having given her the appropriate notice if she decides not to revise the custody agreement (there isnt much to revise, all it says it that ss lives with father, parents will work in a flexible manner on visitation, and she must be notified of emergencies).
As far as I know, by giving
As far as I know, by giving her 60 days notice, it's something you might have to file w/ the court and they deliver it to her, or you send it via certified/ signature required mail. Once she receives it, she has 60 days to contest the move, which could delay your move.
I'd go on your state's website involving family court matters to see what their official ruling is, or talk to the lawyer about filing the paperwork. You might have to set up a new parenting plan with a more specific schedule.
Personally with DH's parenting plan, if one moves more than 100 miles away from the other, both have to drive equal distances for the drop off and pick up. Also there is that 60 day rule for notification.
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I think moving a child away
I think moving a child away from a parent is a very poor idea.
And don't tell me about his promotion or new job or cheaper living conditions etc etc etc.
A child needs their parents and just because YOU find it convenient to relocate its is NOT in a childs best interest.
this is the "dh" i just read
this is the "dh" i just read your comment im not gonna tell you about a promo or any of that crap my child is four and myself mother and my entire family has literally have done everything since birth the bm dipped out at three months and i want to move he has about four moms that he calls ma including his wich i do try to make clear to him is his mother but he has ONE DADDY bub im all for being with your parents i was no angel but 4 years later i want to move the fck on dont judge me ive done every single thing by the book law and lord 4 months past due im still payin this btch child suport thats a few hundred bucks and you cant muster a gift to send? i understand where your commin from but damn give a brother a break.
I agree with you... If you
I agree with you... If you already have full custody and mom has no visitation... there is no reason you can't move on! Damage is already done when BM disappeared. Keep a copy of the letter and send via certified mail so you have a receipt. She could begin a court order to try and fight you so you should be prepared for that just in case...
I would make sure BM knows where to find you so that she can't tell the kid some day.. "dad moved away and I didn't know where you were, blah blah blah".
I didn't get that OC was
I didn't get that OC was judging you.
I saw him being the voice for the child that can't speak in this.
You kinda said it yourself.
You were no angel, but even you stepped up to your responsibilities.
Moving away isn't moving on.
That will not change child support, it won't change visitation. It will not change that you are doing everything for this child.
I am not sure what you mean by he has 4 mom's.
Sounds like you have a close network of people helping you. Why move from that?
"dh" again i get what you
"dh" again
i get what you all are saying. if my sons mother had anythign to do with his life, then id agree that moving away from her would be bad.
What i mean by 4 moms is that he calls his aunt mommy, his great aunt mommy, his oldest cousin mommy, his stepmother stepmommy and his actual mother he calls by her first name no matter how many times i tell him that is his mother and he was in her tummy. He doesnt get how she could be his mom if she was not the one raising him.
two months ago she was talking about moving accross the country (not with my son) - if she can think about moving away from him and not feel guilty at all, then why cant i move away weith him and not feel guilty? ever since she took him there has been all this sht with double standards for the dads. no one seems to give a damn is a woman is a dead beat mom because she si female but the minute i stop paying child support to the btch that does not have my kid my ass gets thrown in jail!
i thought the point of living close to the other parent was that the parent that doesnt live with the kid can spend as much time with them as they want. well she doesnt want to spend any time with him. she took him, figured out being a parent is hard, brought him back and got pregnant again. also i thought the point of child support is to support a child - not a pregnant woman carrying someone elses kid.
I disagree - moving would change alot of bullsht in my life.