I babysat 'em for a couple hours. We played hide n seek and a few other games. The 5 yo kept fake falling and fake crying. I ended up telling him in a jokingly way that if he cries one more time, I"m putting him in the oven. Well, he cried again soonafter. I picked him up and acted like I was putting him in the oven and he was laughing hysterically. Boyfriend came home and as soon as he walked in the door he was yelling out for the 5 yo....."Tommy....Tommy.....Tommy, I"m home...Tommy." Never once did he yell out for his 6 yo son. We had a fight the next day and I was very blunt about how shitty he is for favoring the 5 yo over the 6 yo and I gave examples of how he shows the favortism, and I went on about how bad I feel for his 6 yo. I then told him his 5 yo is becoming a liar, manipluative, whiny, entitled brat thanx to daddy - with examples of the fake crying, fake blaming, fake falling.... when I babysat him the night before. OMG!!! I couldn't believe I called his perfect son those names to daddy kins!!!!
Boyfriend then broke up with me. He said "I knew I shouldn't have let u babysit my kids." The next week I sent him an email about stuff.... he replied and then said, "If I would have known u threatened to put my son in the oven, I would have had u arrested last week"
see how stupid and manipulative these kids are? did the 6yo confirm u were 'joking' with 5yo? and how dumb of your ex to think u would put the lil brat in the oven for real!!!!
actually, I speculate that both kids told him about it while giggling and laughing. Both kids thought it was hysterical. I actually told the 5 yo that I was first going to sting him - so with my 2 pointer fingers, I gently poked his ribs and made a stinging sound. And then I said, "Now that you've been stung, I'm going to pout you in the oven." It was fun.
I think the ex was just pissed about me calling his 5 yo " A lying, bratty, manipulative child who will grow up as an adult feeling the whole world owes him something." I think this made HIM think that I hated the 5yo.... and OMG, almost put him in the oven!!!!
They get left alone with me all the time. They actually behave better (generally) than they do when DH is around. I just don't give in/attend to their whiney crap. I tried explaining it to DH once, but so far he just can't ignore them when they cry... did I mention they cry about everything from putting their clothes away to getting dressed to going to bed?
My first time alone with skids was when daycare lady was on vacation, it was SO's turn to have them during the day but he had a presentation at work so he couldn't miss it. ss3 (he was 2 at the time) cried with SO left but after I comforted him, he forgot all about daddy a few minutes later. I was nevous about the whole thing but it turned out ok. My sskids are still young(3 and 4) so most of the problems we have are with BM causing drama, not so much the kids doing anything wrong.
I've been in SS3's life... well his whole life. Since he was 8 months old when I started dating DH again (we dated in high school, then reconnected after BM disappeared), I didn't meet him until after court was settled. He had turned 1 the week before. DH had to work during the week, so I watched him. all was fine
I have been with DH since SD8 was 2 (only recently got married in 2012). Her BM wouldn't allow her to come to my home at first but after much fighting and pleading BM sent her for a two month visit just after SD8 turned 3. BM and SD8 were living in another state at the time. The first visit went well, SD8 attached and bonded better with me than she did DH. The only real issue we had was trying to get her out of her negative attention seeking behavior. It took a few weeks of strong positive re-enforcement, lots of praise and lots of love and hugs to break her of it but we got it, for the most part. She knows it is not necessary to act out in order for us to pay attention and be involved with her. We still have the same issue occasionally but she has got a lot better about it. Now it's more bad behavior right before she has to go back to BM than anything else. For the most part she has been alone with me since day one because DH and I work alternating and opposite shifts.
It's been 5 yrs and no major problems.... Unless BM stirs the pot. We have our good days and bad days but what parent doesn't?
I babysat 'em for a couple
I babysat 'em for a couple hours. We played hide n seek and a few other games. The 5 yo kept fake falling and fake crying. I ended up telling him in a jokingly way that if he cries one more time, I"m putting him in the oven. Well, he cried again soonafter. I picked him up and acted like I was putting him in the oven and he was laughing hysterically. Boyfriend came home and as soon as he walked in the door he was yelling out for the 5 yo....."Tommy....Tommy.....Tommy, I"m home...Tommy." Never once did he yell out for his 6 yo son. We had a fight the next day and I was very blunt about how shitty he is for favoring the 5 yo over the 6 yo and I gave examples of how he shows the favortism, and I went on about how bad I feel for his 6 yo. I then told him his 5 yo is becoming a liar, manipluative, whiny, entitled brat thanx to daddy - with examples of the fake crying, fake blaming, fake falling.... when I babysat him the night before. OMG!!! I couldn't believe I called his perfect son those names to daddy kins!!!!
Boyfriend then broke up with me. He said "I knew I shouldn't have let u babysit my kids." The next week I sent him an email about stuff.... he replied and then said, "If I would have known u threatened to put my son in the oven, I would have had u arrested last week"
see how stupid and
see how stupid and manipulative these kids are? did the 6yo confirm u were 'joking' with 5yo? and how dumb of your ex to think u would put the lil brat in the oven for real!!!!
actually, I speculate that
actually, I speculate that both kids told him about it while giggling and laughing. Both kids thought it was hysterical. I actually told the 5 yo that I was first going to sting him - so with my 2 pointer fingers, I gently poked his ribs and made a stinging sound. And then I said, "Now that you've been stung, I'm going to pout you in the oven." It was fun.
I think the ex was just pissed about me calling his 5 yo " A lying, bratty, manipulative child who will grow up as an adult feeling the whole world owes him something." I think this made HIM think that I hated the 5yo.... and OMG, almost put him in the oven!!!!
They get left alone with me
They get left alone with me all the time. They actually behave better (generally) than they do when DH is around. I just don't give in/attend to their whiney crap. I tried explaining it to DH once, but so far he just can't ignore them when they cry... did I mention they cry about everything from putting their clothes away to getting dressed to going to bed?
My first time alone with
My first time alone with skids was when daycare lady was on vacation, it was SO's turn to have them during the day but he had a presentation at work so he couldn't miss it. ss3 (he was 2 at the time) cried with SO left but after I comforted him, he forgot all about daddy a few minutes later. I was nevous about the whole thing but it turned out ok. My sskids are still young(3 and 4) so most of the problems we have are with BM causing drama, not so much the kids doing anything wrong.
I've been in SS3's life...
I've been in SS3's life... well his whole life. Since he was 8 months old when I started dating DH again (we dated in high school, then reconnected after BM disappeared), I didn't meet him until after court was settled. He had turned 1 the week before. DH had to work during the week, so I watched him. all was fine
I have been with DH since SD8
I have been with DH since SD8 was 2 (only recently got married in 2012). Her BM wouldn't allow her to come to my home at first but after much fighting and pleading BM sent her for a two month visit just after SD8 turned 3. BM and SD8 were living in another state at the time. The first visit went well, SD8 attached and bonded better with me than she did DH. The only real issue we had was trying to get her out of her negative attention seeking behavior. It took a few weeks of strong positive re-enforcement, lots of praise and lots of love and hugs to break her of it but we got it, for the most part. She knows it is not necessary to act out in order for us to pay attention and be involved with her. We still have the same issue occasionally but she has got a lot better about it. Now it's more bad behavior right before she has to go back to BM than anything else. For the most part she has been alone with me since day one because DH and I work alternating and opposite shifts.
It's been 5 yrs and no major problems.... Unless BM stirs the pot. We have our good days and bad days but what parent doesn't?