Attempt after attempt of trying to deal with my situation, I have failed and failed. I don't want to give up, I'm sick of fighting with my bf about it. So I thought, why not google some support group to talk with people in my situation. TaDa! Here I am...........grab some popcorn, kick your feet up, because I'm about to give you a semi-nutshell version of what I am involved in.

I'm 26yrs old, no kids, able to support myself, confident woman.

Almost 1.5yrs ago, I met my boyfriend. On our first date, he laid his life out on the line, so there were no secrets. Wanted me to know what I would be getting involved in, if I continued talking to him. Typical, I am woman, hear me roar attitude, I said I could handle it, don't worry (oye...what was I thinking!) He still had a gf, that he was having a lot of issues with, still married but separated for 3yrs (had been together with for 10yrs), he had a 4yr old daughter, a 11yr old step daughter, and a crazy (ex) wife, who would make my life hell. (Not so bad right!)

Here is a little insight about the wifey. She has 3 kids, 3 different fathers. 11, 9, 4. 11yr old, she has shared custody with, so she has her during the school year, and in the summers she lives with her father. 9yr old, she gave up all rights to, because she didn't want to pay back child support. Her name was taken off the birth certificate and everything, hasn't had contact with her in almost 4yrs. 4yr old, which is the daughter from my bf, that is her little angel and the only kid she really cares about. They split up because she cheated on him on several occasions. She at one point, left the house, moved in with another man within a month, moved her kids in with this man, and had a new ring on her finger that she flaunted to everyone. She put them both in ungodly amounts of debt, had cars repoed under his name, used his SSN# for things, stole his money, etc.

So...we start dating, everything is great. Kids love me, we're happy. But this lady sends me emails, FB messages, calls me horrible names, threatens to take the daughter away, makes moves on my bf, feeds the kids lies, calls/texts the bf everyday, all hours. Sounds like everyone else's issue too right!

We've fought over everything you can imagine. It's A LOT of stress on a relationship having someone like this constantly around. Have I accepted the fact that this woman would be around no matter what for the rest of our life? Of course, they have a daughter together. Have I accepted the fact that I need to be a bigger person, kill her with kindness, not let her get between the bf and I, let the boyfriend deal with her, because she's his problem not mine. NOPE! Don't know how!!!!!!!!!

Fast forward to February. Divorce is finally initiated and finalized in the beginning of of July (woohooo!!!) Shared custody, everything is great, no problems with the divorce, I'm happy it's finally done. WOO.

Here are my problems.

1.) She talks/texts my bf everyday (80% about the daughter, 20% misc.) I can't stand it. Does he respond to the misc stuff, sometimes. But not all the time. Is he super super nice to her regardless of EVERYTHING she's done to him, on occasion. Do they argue 90% of their convos. YUP! IS THIS NORMAL!!?!?!?

2.) She called my bf the other day to let him know that she called up his ex-gf (the one before me) and invited her to their daughters bday party. WHO DOES THAT?!!?!? She doesn't think. She has no respect for anyone, even her own kids. That would confuse their daughter so much it's sad.

3.) Just found out this morning that she applied for a position at my work....and the work that my bf has a temp position at currently. $#!%#$@^$^@ Do I think she'll get the job? No...not a chance. I have been for 7yrs. My sister works in H.R. she has a lot of balls to apply for a job here, but she's so dumb considering my sister is in H.R. The fact that she considered it, baffles me. My bf new she applied, and didn't tell me. He didn't even say anything to her, like it was a bad idea, and so wrong of her to do. (Should he have?!?! I am livid about this!!!)

I could go on and on and on about the things she's done. Not to mention, we have the kid every other day during the week and every other weekend. However, on her weekends, she works Saturdays....and we take her. We have a notebook that documents EVERYTHING she does. He currently pays her child support because he makes money, but we have her more of the time, even though it says in the papers it's 50/50.

$#@%#$^$%&^@$%&% I'm at wit's end fighting with my bf over this constantly. That he should have told her this, and should have responded to her like this. Why does he do things for her? Why does he answer her calls and texts all the time?

HELP! I joined this site because I need to talk with people int he same situation. I have my gf's who are always on my side, but that's no help, because I need to know if I truly have reasons to be pissed off about certain things, or if this is just what being a relationship with a divorced bf all about.

Thanks for reading!