My SO and I had the biggest fight we have had in a long time. The kids were getting on my last nerve. I got home and ss4 was telling me how he stole an extra piece of cheesecake and I said why you were only supposed to have one? He said because he wanted to. Okay great lol whatever. I told him that he can have water with dinner since he felt like being like that. He doesnt need the extra sugar. He kept going on and getting on my nerves to say it bluntly. I went for a run because I needed to get out of the house. I came back the older boys had done their chores so I said they could go outside. SS9 asked me 20 min later could friends come inside. My SO has a strict rule about them not going to other peoples houses or them coming in our house unless he is here. I told him no even though he knew the answer before he asked the question. I call the boys and tell them time to come in. Everyone comes in except ss9. I tell the boys start calling him. After about 10 min of no response I start getting worried. I step outside to start looking and he comes running to me. I asked why he was in someones house because ss7 was looking for you? He said I wasnt. Yes you were I know you were. He said I heard them I just didnt feel like coming in. WTF? Are you serious?? So I tell him your in trouble just go wash hands for dinner. ss9 proceeds to say good I am glad I am in trouble! I was like what why? He says I want to be in trouble because then I dont have to go to the camping catalina trip. This trip is something my SO plans every year with the boys it would break his heart to know he didnt want to go. I asked why he was acting like a spoiled brat and that I was disappointed in him. I said if you stay then you know what you will be doing he says yea homework and I want to do homework! By the way he is yelling at me. If this would have happened when I was 9 I would have been smacked. I said your not eating at the table I put him in the hallway and said you will take a shower after and go to bed. My SO comes home and starts yelling at him for being in the hallway and I said you can talk to me he needed a timeout and he got one. He goes back outside for a work phone call. SS9 starts bitching and yelling and throwing a tantrum. Again my patience is practically gone. He gets done eating and wants to get ice cream?? Serious?? Um no go take a shower. ss9- why? why do i have to?? Why me blah blah I said go now! he keeps going. I linked my arm with his and told him that I would escort him. He starts pulling me and pushing me off him! I went outside and told my SO I need you in here! He puts his hand up and says I am busy..............I lost it. I am always doing everything by myself. We argued later and he is screaming at me and he finally says we were fine before you came. Your the reason I am an asshole to my kids. Ladies I cannot do this anymore! I hate him.