This isn't about skids, so I apologize but I'm very confused and could use some advice.
My MIL has been pretty nonexistant for pretty much the entire time I dated, was engaged to, and now married to DH. He would call her every now and again, if we had get togethers he would always invite her but she would never show up. Most of the time when he called her she would bitch at him for this or that or why are you calling me right now I've got things to do. I never really understood the relationship. Last Christmas SIL came over and told me something I had no idea about.
"Our mother pretty much abandoned us with our grandma so she could go and live the life she wanted."
I looked to DH for confirmation which he gave. Some things made sense then. I would touch on the subject every now and again and try to get DH to open up about it but I never push the discussion. I just accepted it and let it be. I know all to well somethings are just to painful to talk about.
The last two months though, it's like invasion of the body snatchers.
She calls every other day almost. Always wants him to come do things for her. Take her places, go places with her. I don't object to him trying to reconnect with his mother, I do however object to him ducking out of work at least once a week to go pal around with his mom. I do not like the fact that he tells me he's doing this when really he's going off to his moms.
The past two months my DH hasn't worked a full week. Sometimes he makes up emergencies he has to get to which shortens his hours, and after CS for four kids is taken out that one day is a make it or break it. Or, he'll bill out the hours as if he had been working the enitre time. The guy DH replaced got fired for that, can he not understand why this makes me very uncomfortable?
I shouldn't even bother asking him to do anything around our house anymore because every time I do there's some problem MIL has that he has to drop everything for and go fix. I had no idea he was such a mommas boy. I have asked him why the drastic change and he seems oblivious to it saying that's just how his mom is. Really, because I'm pretty sure I would have noticed this before. The last time he ditched work to go and drive his mother around and hang out all day we got in a huge argument. He says I'm jealous of his mother. I don't think that's the case but I could be wrong and subconciously I am. I just think if I was to take off work with out telling him he would be very upset. If I did it once a week he would be pissed. If I ignored all my responsibilities around the house becasue of my mother he would get pretty fed up with it too. I'm not sure what to think or if I should even be bothered about this. Any advice?