She made a snarky post making fun of another poster yesterday and got a warning. Then this morning she made another post defending her first post and saying that admin was making up rules and being unfair.
I was going to comment on it saying that she has high hopes of trying to justify/seek redemption in that manner. I've been banned too (not from this board; another board) so while I can sympathize with her, no amount of calling out the moderators for a percieved injustice is going to solve anything. Moderators are human beings too who have the (often thankless) responsibility to the forum board community. So if they feel the ban-hammer is necessary, then it is necessary.
I've been a moderator too. It's amazing how many people think this is a position solely attained by people drunk on power.
Sad to lose a kind person what a bummer. If she has been banned, I'm sure that administration had to do it. Ive been out of line here myself before and try to remain off this site if I'm having a bad day to avoid such.
I was surprised by Katinka's post, it seemed out of keeping with her usual thoughtful and self aware posts. Personally I felt that it was completely inappropriate to write a post designed to single out and humiliate another member, regardless of the rights and wrong of that members situation. The place to communicate opinions on that members post was in reply to that post, and more than enough people had already had their say.
I guess I don't see the value in calling people out and demeaning them for their mistakes. If that Rosebear poster was here because she was upset/miserable and having problems in her life; I think that's "justice" enough for her cheating.
Not sure what gives anyone the right to come here and point fingers and judge people. Nothing about what happened was innocent or okay. While I may agree that the cheating was wrong, who the hell am I to criticize or further attempt to humiliate that poster? I guess it's all in the name of "entertainment" .. but no value added on a website designed for stepparents to come vent and discuss their relevant issues.
Just because a person CAN openly criticize and chastise another poster doesn't mean they should. Seems particularly low on a website designed for venting and advice.
I guess I don't understand the value to anyone here when the forum/blogs reduce to name calling and finger pointing. How does that help anyone deal with their own issues with stepparenting? If you can't offer any constructive advice or support to the poster, why even bother responding?
That's all I'm really going to say about it .. seems to me that this issue has gotten plenty of attention as it is.
She made a snarky post making
She made a snarky post making fun of another poster yesterday and got a warning. Then this morning she made another post defending her first post and saying that admin was making up rules and being unfair.
I saw that post. I was going
I saw that post.
I was going to comment on it saying that she has high hopes of trying to justify/seek redemption in that manner. I've been banned too (not from this board; another board) so while I can sympathize with her, no amount of calling out the moderators for a percieved injustice is going to solve anything. Moderators are human beings too who have the (often thankless) responsibility to the forum board community. So if they feel the ban-hammer is necessary, then it is necessary.
I've been a moderator too. It's amazing how many people think this is a position solely attained by people drunk on power.
Hallelujah. Moderating a
Hallelujah. Moderating a board is a thankless job.
better watch yourself
better watch yourself
I get way more credit than I
I get way more credit than I deserve.
wow. of all the nasty that
wow. of all the nasty that passes thru here... she is a valuable sister to lose. very sad.
That's exactly what I thought
That's exactly what I thought too. She is such a kind person. I have a hard time thinking she went after someone for no good reason.
Sad to lose a kind person
Sad to lose a kind person what a bummer. If she has been banned, I'm sure that administration had to do it. Ive been out of line here myself before and try to remain off this site if I'm having a bad day to avoid such.
She's been on here for a long
She's been on here for a long time...loved her point of view. Gonna miss her!
I was surprised by Katinka's
I was surprised by Katinka's post, it seemed out of keeping with her usual thoughtful and self aware posts. Personally I felt that it was completely inappropriate to write a post designed to single out and humiliate another member, regardless of the rights and wrong of that members situation. The place to communicate opinions on that members post was in reply to that post, and more than enough people had already had their say.
You got that right Whimsey!
You got that right Whimsey!
I guess I don't see the value
I guess I don't see the value in calling people out and demeaning them for their mistakes. If that Rosebear poster was here because she was upset/miserable and having problems in her life; I think that's "justice" enough for her cheating.
Not sure what gives anyone the right to come here and point fingers and judge people. Nothing about what happened was innocent or okay. While I may agree that the cheating was wrong, who the hell am I to criticize or further attempt to humiliate that poster? I guess it's all in the name of "entertainment" .. but no value added on a website designed for stepparents to come vent and discuss their relevant issues.
Just because a person CAN
Just because a person CAN openly criticize and chastise another poster doesn't mean they should. Seems particularly low on a website designed for venting and advice.
I guess I don't understand the value to anyone here when the forum/blogs reduce to name calling and finger pointing. How does that help anyone deal with their own issues with stepparenting? If you can't offer any constructive advice or support to the poster, why even bother responding?
That's all I'm really going to say about it .. seems to me that this issue has gotten plenty of attention as it is.