It saddens me that I sometimes wonder if my boyfriend is a good dad. I know that he is but there are times that I wonder why he does what he does. I was alone with SD9 all weekend because he was working and I discovered something. She is perfectly capable of getting things done when she’s with me but when he’s around all of a sudden she’s completely helpless and needy. I taught her how to make eggs and she’s fine doing it with me but when he’s around she cries and says she can’t do it. Before she went to bed on Sunday night, I asked her to take care of all of her crap she had spread out all over the kitchen table. She began doing it but as soon as he walked into the room she stopped and waited while HE put everything away. We’re supposed to be on the same page with her being responsible for her things but how can she do that if he’s going to do everything for her? It’s so frustrating and he just doesn’t see it, doesn’t have a clue. And that puts me in between a rock and a hard place because if I say anything about it, I’m just picking on her and being unreasonable. How do I reconcile this with myself? Just keep quiet and let it go?