week from H*ll HELP
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What do you do with a child who will not do anything other than say no, yells at everyone, is now cusing like a sailor and is putting up her middle finger at her dad and me.
This kid has gone from worse to H*ll in two days and oh joy......... Off to see the mother again this weekend, who says I need to have a little talk with her...
Oh great cause her talks with her usually leads her to get the kid more messed up.
I am so looking to a weekend without her and so dreading the day she comes back.
Calgone help take me away......................
Side note we have the kids
Side note we have the kids all the time, no help from the mother other than her occasionally getting them.
Hmmmmm. I wonder what would
Hmmmmm. I wonder what would happen to my kids/Skids finger if they ever dared to give me or DH the finger?
Let's see...I see a cast, I see first aid burn ointment, I see a hammer, I see.....
Oops, sorry, was thinking out loud.
Yikes! Skip the little talk!
Yikes! Skip the little talk! Try this For 1 Month
1. Cell Phone Gone!
2. No Door On Bedroom
3. Change Internet Passcode, So She Can't Use The Internet
4. You Are Required To Clothe Her- Just The Basics- Certainly Nothing Designer
5. If You Are Not Home, Take Cable Box With You
6. Drive Her To School Only
7. Give Her Absolutely No Money For Anything
8. Each Time She Flips You Off Or Is Disrespectful, Add 2 Weeks
If you stick to this and provide a united front, you have a chance of her changing. If she continues this , it will get worse and you will loose more control as she gets older.
Good Luck!
^^^Yes!^^^
^^^Yes!^^^
And your putting up with this
And your putting up with this behavior... why?
My ss cussed at me once and got slapped in the mouth. Hasn't happened again.
If a middle finger, trust that it would be so painful it would never get flicked again.
Understand this kid is BEGGING you for boundaries. She is in fact daring you to make sure she adheres to them. Accept the challange and show her who is boss.
You didnt mention this childs age. And alot of parents have a problem with busting a child's butt no matter how desperately they are begging for it... so here are some alternatives.
If your dh is against corporeal punishment: Find the kids currancy and eliminate it. No electronics, no phone, no tv, no friends over, no going anywhere, no favorite activity-- whatever her favorite thing is: its GONE. Starts with 24 hours... then doubles for every infraction after. (so 2nd offense 48 hours, 3rd offence 4 days etc.)
Exhaust her. If she has enough energy to give you attitude, cuss and flick you off she has energy to burn. Sit her down to write sentences (must be numbered, written neatly, spelled correctly or they get ripped up and she starts over, nothing related to FUN allowed until sentences are completed. She gets really bad: hand her a dictionary and make her copy every word in it. (worked WONDERS for my stepson)
Alternately, assign her extra chores. Shovel snow, scrub toilets/floors/ weed/ mow the lawn, scrub baseboards wash windows etc etc etc... get creative.
And sadly, some kids do not get the "kind and gentle" approach of fixing their behavior and more drastic measures are needed. My DH has stripped rooms, packed everything up in boxes, left the kids a mattress on the floor, three set of clothes (ugly school uniforms), one pair of shoes, one pillow, one blanket and even took down wall decorations etc.
And then you have the kids that don't care. And the only way to prompt them into caring, is applying the palm of their parents hand to their butt until the attitude self corrects.
I dont want to be around her
I dont want to be around her at all when she is like this, she is so disrespectful. He mother is encouraging her behavior, she said her mom said I was just another one of her dad's ho's
She is nothing, no TV no nothing, she was even trying to watch the family tv and I turned it off and unplugged it.
That is what I said, she get nothing extra, but my DH has a soft heart since they have been thru so much she is 10 and was sexually abused, but as I told him if we do not correct this behavior now she will be H*ll on wheels and in juvy soon, she is violent and has horrible mood swings, (she is being medicated and counseled).
Nothing seems to help at all.
I have no desire to be around her, she tells her dad that I won't do things with her, ah duh, treat me like crap, why would I . Maybe Im wrong there, but I think NOT>
I know alot of the mother's jealousy comes from me having a JOB, and having it for a while she hops from job to job and the only job her husband has is talking to other women and keeping their couch warm. She pushes that on my SD and even has told her that my DH is cheating on me.