we sent the proposal
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So I mailed the first proposal for parenting time, custody and child support for my SO to BM. Sent it certified, return receipt requestedas BM requested. Mailed it Tuesday, notice left in her mailbox on Wednesday. As of tonight, she still has not picked it up. Hopefully tomorrow. There is a note in the letter stating to respond within 10 days of reciept. Anyone know - is that 10 from when she picks it up or when she gets the notice to pick it up?
Have a feeling she will take her time getting it if she picks it up at all. Guess that is just another strike against her if we have to go to court - at least I hope it is. Non compliance - not following the court order that both parents agreed to.
That is good
I always staple your certified mail receipt to the letter so you can check the numbers (maybe online?) if she doesnt' respond. Hopefully you guys can work something out!
"Fortune favors the brave" - Virgil
she picked it up today
I checked online and BM picked up the letter at 10:45am. There is a note in it stating BF will pick up baby Sunday at 2pm. Also, that BF will only discuss these issues with BM via mail. This should help reduce the arguements that BM picks with BF. Also stated hopefully this can be resolved in a timely manner but to BM timely does not apply to her.
Wonder how long we will actually have to wait for a responce. BM's sister is visiting this weekend and she told BF she would look over the proposal too. Neither of them will like it since BM will have to give and she doesn't feel she has to.
no new is .....
So far BM has not sent her response. Her excuse for not doing something is I have a newborn or when she was preganat that was her excuse. Guess what, lots of people have newborns and still manage to have a normal productive life. She can remember to pay her bills, buy groceries, get gas, take care of baby, etc but she is unable to shovel her walk, plow her driveway - or pay someone to do it - mow the lawn, pick up dog crap, get the house ready for sale, water her outdoor plants (they all died and she just left them there) etc.
I guess I have never been a lazy person so I don't get her. I managed to sell my house and move 35 miles with 3 kids - newborn, 5 and 9 - all by myself. I did have help with the move but I did the other stuff myself - packing, cleaning, going to work, you know the normal stuff of life.
I wish she would get off her fat a** and take care of business. I know she is still pissed cause BF won't ok a passport for the baby. We have the forms to send to the passport office to let us know if she gets him one. I hope she does not resort to illegal activites to get the baby a passport. Prison would not go well for her.
we are
We have to get baby's social security number from BM again and then off the paperwork goes to alert us if mom tries to get baby a passport.
still waiting...
BM has had her letter for over a week. Time's up. We are going to wait until the end of the week and then amend the proposal asking for more time and stuff like that.
Figure if we come out "guns a blazing" so to speak and then hope for the best. At this rate, this discussion will go on until baby is of age! Come on all ready!