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Unexcitable 7yr old. grrrrr!

3798HH's picture

I have been with my husband for 2 years now, married for 1 year. SS7 does not get excited for NOTHING! I mean NOTHING! We went on a weekend vacation that I planned for bonding since my husband says he hasnt taken him anywhere in 3 or 4 years (he's been laid off for a while and recently got a great job) So we spend about $1000 for the weekend and the kid acted like he hated every minute of it.. we went to Bass Pro for a Santa picture, went to a knife works store and got him is own pocket knife (bad idea in my opinion) went to a dinner/show attraction with horses and cowboys (Dixie Stampede), rode in a sight seeing helicopter, went to an aquarium and a zoo.. He got mad cause hubby bought me a cute taboggin beanie hat and not him (it was a girly store, nothing for boys or kids, he didn't care that is was for a girl, he still got mad because hubby spent $20 on me)... last Christmas he opened his 20 something gifts that I BOUGHT and said is that it?.. and walked off.. toys are still in his room unused (the prior year he got only clothes and a DS with 2 games since DH was broke and couldn't afford much) He asked WHY we were going Trick or Treating at Halloween (local churches had Trick or Treating a day early). Anyone know what the hell is going on with this child!!! I know he's not that bright (failed 1st grade last year) but come on what kid wouldn't be excited about things!!! Anyone else have this prob with skid being unexcitable and VERY jealous of you!

Anon2009's picture

It sounds like this kid could use some professional help. It sounds like he might have unresolved issues regarding a lot of things. This can hugely help.a person of any age if the counselor is a good one. HDH can call SS' pediatrician and get the phone numbers in some good counselors.

Also, does DH discipline him when he acts rudely? That's very important too.

3798HH's picture

DH half ass disciplines him.. SS will act out or be rude/hateful/mean and DH will yell/talk/discuss at him for like 30min.. till SS crys and says we are mean to him. We let him open an early Christmas present the other day.. he played it the car for like 2 seconds, took it in his room, throwed it down and got into bed and cried cause he said there's nothing to do here. (He has a DS, Bike, Playstation, games, toys, BB Gun, tent/playhouse, Basketball goal, skateboard, rollerblades, 120 acres of farm land, so yea theres nothing to do here).. He hasn't asked about Santa or when is Christmas, he doesn't even look at the Christmas tree and has no interest about it.

branmuffin97's picture

We had a foster daughter that took meds for depression at 8yo. She cried all the time..stayed in bed...had no joy...it pained her to laugh at anything. Poor kid. We are in touch with the family that adopted her...she is now a senior and has been diagnosed as bipolar. (her birthparents were bipolar and schizophrenic) It's worth looking into if he is this way in other settings. If he's only this way at dad's...he might need a little therapy...he must be struggling with some issues regarding the divorce.

frustratedsince09's picture

It sounds like we have the same SS7!!!!!! He has been in therapy, and the conclusion is that he is just an ungrateful, lazy kid that appreciates NOTHING!!!!!! BM is unmotivated, lazy and has no goals, settles for mediocrity, and he is her with a penis! Sorry you have deal with what I have dealt with for 5 years now!!!!

3798HH's picture

Well, my husband doesn't have any mental issues, not sure about the mother other than she is a lazy ass who got prego before she married my hubby so he married her, they divorced almost 4 years ago and she got prego by another man (the one she cheated on hub with) and then he had to marry her. So she sits at home and draws all kinds of wellfare. (thank God there is 50/50 custody and he doesn't have to pay her ass) There are times I wish he only had him once or twice a month and had to pay child support. He brings down a great mood in an instant. He just has no care if the sun rises or sets. He could careless if he woke up in the morning. This kid is not excited about his birthday, Christmas, toothfairy, Easter, NOTHING! He doesn't ask for any toys other than GUNS! Somebody got him a .22 for his first birthday or Christmas that my husband has put up till he gets to be about 12/13yrs old.. every week the kid asks to shoot it and every week we tell him no, he has a plastic bb gun that he thinks is a real pistol and is obsessed with it. He came into the hallway one day while I was still dating DH before we got married and stood there with the bb gun pointed at me like he was getting ready to aim and fire (husband was in the bathroom at the time) So of course there was no discipline for this DH just said you know better than to point a gun at anyone even if it is a toy. THIS KID IS CRAZY!?

paul_in_utah's picture

Sounds like the kid is a sociopath. Since sociopath's don't ever get better, and since you are only 2 years into your marriage, you might want to consider an exit strategy. Normally, I would just advise that you disengage, but this kid might end up injuring or killing you.

3798HH's picture

I've vented to my mom all along about the wierd ways of this child and she says he sounds like one of those children that turn into murders. I sugeested to my DH that maybe he needs theraphy, but I got a "what the hell are talking about woman" look.. my husband and his family are all very COUNTRIFIED, and believe in home remedies and only go to the Dr if a limb is hanging off.