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Tiny step towards 'happy wife, happy life'

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Submitted by ocs on Wed, 04/09/2014 - 8:09am

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DH asked me if things have been better lately for me. He acknowledged the SD14 schedule has been whacked out and apologized. (I can appreciate she is a teen, and honestly- she is over less now)

I told him it stresses me out, but provided he doesn't expect me to jump through hoops and reschedule myself, he can see her whenever he pleases. If I happen to be around, great. If not- he has daddddddyyyyyy daughter time.

He seemed to 'get it'. Jury is still out...

She has decided to be around Saturday and DH asked if I would come. I said yes, as a gesture, since I have been quite absent lately and have not been around. The inlaws are part of it too, so its family time. For me this also means wine time... Blum 3

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Submitted by Sparklelady on Wed, 04/09/2014 - 8:27am

Nice! Good for you. It's nice to hear that you're doing your own thing but still being available for him when it works for you - and that's important for your relationship.

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Submitted by Dizzy on Wed, 04/09/2014 - 8:32am

Fingers crossed!

Nothing drives me crazier than a change of skid plans, which suddenly means a change of MY plans...we had a big knockdown drag out last May over that issue...(BM decided to extend her overseas visit to her family, sans SD, for an entire week...meant change of plans AND a heartbroken SD who had expected her mommy would only be gone for two weeks)

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Submitted by ocs on Wed, 04/09/2014 - 8:58am

oh no!

I hate when BM's change stuff last minute. Ours tends to always be 'running behind' at drop off times. This has screwed me 2x, so now, if SD is with us, I don't commit us for definite plans afterwards.

Both Dh and I are trying to compromise about this whole thing. I do see him trying and that is what is spurring me to spend some time with them again. I went about a year not even laying eyes on SD.

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Submitted by Sparklelady on Wed, 04/09/2014 - 9:07am

I'm at 8 months without speaking with SD17. It's still pretty freaking awesome. Now, at least, I don't want to punch her in the throat anymore, lol, so I'd say that's progress! Smile

I've found a lot of peace just by doing things I want, and only when I want to (regarding skids and DH's family.) The rest falls on my DH, and it's making everything much, much better. Hope this continues to work for you!