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Stepdaughter constantly picks with my son

Nikki091_'s picture

My SD is 9 years old and my son is 2. Literally every single day, all day, she picks with my son. All day it's "daddy he's doing this, daddy he's doing that". If I had a dollar for every time she told her dad that he's doing something I would be a billionaire, no exaggeration. Clearly I feel she's doing it on purpose but I don't say anything because he believes anything she says. Sometimes my fiancé's nephew would come over on the weekends and if they're all playing around my SD would get the nephew to lie and say that my son hit them so he would get in trouble. I'm so sick of it.

Winterglow's picture

Your son is 2, for goodness sake! It's time someone told her that nobody likes a tattle tale. 

Dogmom1321's picture

Remind her of what she was like at 2 years old. If you weren't around, DH should be saying "When you were 2 you ______. That's what toddlers do." 

Call her out on it. SD11 stopped complaining about our 11 month old when I told her it's annoying. She would on repeat say "Omg, why is he staring at me. Stop staring at me. Staring is rude." Blah, blah, blah. 

notarelative's picture

 he believes anything she says

And from a previous blog

 don't know how to tell my fiancé how I feel because he's gonna take her side.

Clearly you have a problem, but its not just a SD problem. It's a fiance problem.

Your son is two. You need to protect him. Do not leave him alone with SD. When SD is there, where you go, he goes. Every time SD starts the 'daddy he...' whine, speak up and stop it. 

Speak up to your fiance. For a marriage, a long term relationship, to succeed a couple needs to be able to talk to each other. You should consider individual and couple counseling. Individual for you to figure out why you have been willing to let your son grow up in this disfunction. Couples to see if this relationship is worth saving.

 

Rags's picture

This is on you.  
 

Say something..... every time she blathers.

"You are a 9yo tattletale and you have to cry to your daddy about a 2yo.  Really?"

Lather, rinse, repeat.

Don't  let either of them pull this shit. Them being the failed family breeding effort of your DH and your DH.

shamds's picture

Legit from work he would message me asking me to confirm adult ss did the things hubby asked.

any issues with ss while hubby is at work, hubby trusts what i say and is addressing it with ss to the point hubby is fighting with ss.

when ss would lie to hubby and over exaggerated things trying to paint me as a bad neglectful mother, my husband wasn't having any of it and told ss that isn't what happened and i know because me and your stepmum communicate always so just because i'm at work doesn't mean i don't know whats going on at home.

everybody knows the abusive narcissistic neglectful cheating manipulative whore ss mum is so him trying to paint me negatively because we all know the woman he is a product of is such a joke. Even. My inlaws side with my husband that no way will exwife trashtalk me to them considering the person she is, she's nowhere near my league

Boho356's picture

I feel so sorry for your son. If I were you I'd tell dad to stop believing his obviously jealous child that his daughter needs to leave your son the hell alone and grow up.