False claims of abuse are scary, and they're especially scary when you have a child of your own or you work in childcare, because both your own child and your livelihood are at risk.  Is never being alone with his child an option?  

I could have written this myself. Well, minus the “married my ex-best friends ex-boyfriend” part. :) 

Anyway, BM is crazy and is constantly beating into skids head that I’m a terrible person, blah blah blah. Probably a little over a year ago, SD was 8, and told BM that I “pushed her face”. Which translated into hitting her. BM told everyone I hit SD, and when we asked SD why she said that, she said right to me that I pushed her face. She had 2 different stories about when it happened, and one was when my SO was right there. Either way, I never touched her, and wouldn’t. The thing is, SD loves me, and when I was gently asking her about it, she walked up to me and hugged me. I think she actually believed it happened, to an extent.

Anyway, I felt totally defeated. After dealing with BM’s constant nonsense and harassment, talking sh*t about me, etc...I finally felt like, I give up. It’s never going to end. And to have my neighbor tell me that they saw BM at the store and she told them that I hit SD...it sucked. I was tempted to walk. I was terrified of something happening with CPS, of them believing it. What’s crazy, is BM actually called CPS after that about something else, and idk if she ever even mentioned the “hitting” to CPS (if she didn’t it’s because she knew it wasn’t true)..either way, nothing came of it. They briefly talked to skids and immediately said they had no concerns with us. 

CPS isn’t stupid. They talk to the kids and can usually tell when it’s not a true story. I wouldn’t worry about that too much. If you are happy, and think you can deal with BM’s antics, then stay. Things have actually gotten much, much better for us. We have BM at a distance, contact is very limited (she’s blocked on everything but a court-ordered app for communication) which has saved us. That and sticking to the custody agreement. Honestly, it was unbearable prior to the app. There are ways to lesson the drama. If you are doubting the marriage for other reasons, that’s another thing. Otherwise I would say, don’t let BM have the power to ruin your marriage. Cut her off as much as possible. Limit her opportunities to communicate. I know SD is the one who said this, but she’s also 2. She doesn’t know what she’s saying. You know what is true- don’t let BM have that much power over you! 

Good luck. I do know exactly how you feel. 

my stepson (10 at the time) wrote a note in his room and screwed it up. I found it when cleaning the room. He accused me of hurting him and punching him and that he hated me and wished I was never born. This came up after I growled him for throwing large rocks full force at our old dogs face! I was very upset as we have a young son and I am not going to have false accusations thrown around that could jeopardise my family and son! 

I told hubby and showed him the note. Told him it gets sorted as soon as stepson comes back. We had a talk to him and asked him why he Wrote it and how he felt. He said he was grumpy and it wasn’t true, which we already knew! Then we told him what would happen and that these lies are not on and that he would not be welcome back if he’s going to make up false allegations. It was tough but had to be done and is what our amazing councillor told us to do. Safe to say no more shit so far. Except accusations from the ex but stepson likes to please his mum so Wouldn’t surprise me if he’s telling her fibs. 

As for your situation and the kid being 2, my son is 4 and makes up lies like this all of the time about kids hurting him or people. We tell him it’s not acceptable but sometimes he just likes to say things and make up stories. However your hubby truely should know you and needs to sort it ASAP! Before it becomes a bigger issue. 

You have a five year old with him and he has a two year old with his ex? Huh?