Good Afternoon Everybody,

So FSD(6) has had some issues recently with stealing. About two weeks ago when it was BM's week FSD stole a bag of change from another kid at school when they set it down out on the play ground. How does BM handle the situation? She has FSD bring the money back to school and give it back to the who ever she took it from. I bet that FSD just threw it away. BM also doesn't say anything to SO and I. We found out when FSD had to go to counceling. Fast forward to the week before last. FSD steals lotion from another kid at daycare during BM's week. We get her the following Tuesday. BM tells FSD when she drops her off at daycare that she needs to give the lotion back and say she is sorry. So what does FSD do. She gives it back to the other little girl in front of one of the daycare teachers and then turns around and steals it out of the little girls backpack again. Plus she also stole a lip gloss out of another little girls purse the same day. Now all the daycare teachers will not let FSD into the daycare when everyone is outside playing without supervision to use the bathroom because they are afraid that she will take stuff out of their purses. At first we knew that the lotion was not hers because of the daycare teacher. We had no idea about the lip gloss until the next day. She was eating breakfast and I asked her where she got the lip gloss from. She told me that another little girl gave it to her. I continued to ask questions until she finally admitted up to stealing it. After she admits up to stealing it she looks me in the eye and tells me that she is already in trouble for stealing so she can't get into anymore for doing the same thing. Really? Thinks again FSD think again. Yet again BM didn't tell SO about FSD stealing the lotion on her week. SO emails BM about this and BM responds with a, "have her write a letter." Are you freaking kidding me? That approach is obviously not working. Whatever happened to punishing? Ever since BM has put FSD back in daycare a couple of weeks ago they have been experiencing behavioral issues with her This has only been happening on BM's weeks. So the punishment that SO and I came up with was FSD had to go to bed an hour early every night including the weekend and didn't get her movie in bed on Friday and Saturday. She has also been told that the next time she does this during our week she will not only have to return the item that she took but she will also use some of the money in her piggy bank to buy another one of what ever she took, she will be grouned again for the entire week, and she will be driven to the police station to have a little chat with a police officer.

BM got fiered last spring from a great job for stealing from one of her clients so I wonder where FSD gets this behavior from. What do you guys think? I think it's just nuts. I got caught once stealing when I was 5 and my step mom made it a point to show me that was wrong and I have never done it again. What do you guys think about FSD(6) doing this? I just don't know. It freaks me out. It's like she just doesn't care. What do you guys think a good punishment for stealing is?