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Submitted by Sistadaz on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 1:15am

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Hi I am a stepmother to 3 boys to one BM and a girl to another BM. None of which live with us but come to stay every second weekend. My partner has arranged for the skids to come stay over christmas as they dont want to go on holidays with their BM's.
Me and my partner are pregnant and due New Years Eve!
My partner dosnt let me have much to do with either BM only if i have to pick the skids up. He is so unorganized and tends to make plans last minute which i hate.
I love him and want to make things work.
I have welcomed all of the children into my life and have good relationships with all the children.
I find my partner is really helpful during the week and before we have the kids stay, but as soon as they arrive he seems to get drunk and i am left to look after them and drive them places.
I am finding it hard to cope with the idea of looking after all the kids while going into labour over the most stressful christmas period. I dont feel like i signed up for this much responsibility. PLEASE HELP

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Submitted by Bubbly1 on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 7:32am

I agree with Dru, my ex would do some shitty things, and I'd hop on the phone to his mom and grandma so fast it'd make his head spin! They'd show up at my doorstep and show him what was what! Lmao nothing funnier than a grown man reduced to a little boy in front of momma and grammy!
Sorry your being treated this way, and pregnant too! Your dh needs to take responsibility for HIS kids and not get drunk evey time they come to visit HIM!

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Submitted by topcat on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 7:40am

i would go off and make plans for yourself and he would put that drink up in order to handle them. RUN! ha

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Submitted by giveitago on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 8:30am

OH dear! Then he's going to have to learn toot sweet that being a dad and getting drunk does NOT work well. I'd be telling him he has choices, do not forbid him having a drink or that might incur rage, but let him know he has choices for the festive holidays and that, since you are heavily pregnant, he really needs to be helping YOU, translate that as dealing with HIS KIDS!
DH used to drink too, he quit years ago, he had choices.

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Submitted by liks on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 9:00am

Well i would be furios ....omg

I have babies in less than two hours...I never knew that until I had one .... So them skids need to be staying somewhere else or u cld be so stressed you'll have the baby early....

Now does your dh understand how to deliver a new born just in case he can't get u to the hospital in time....and wots he going to do with allthese skids hanging around?...

Put your foot down , yell and scream until he understands....them skids are not welcome wen your so close to labour......