I have no one to vent to and I feel like such a CRAB when the skids come around.

It's a weird custody arrange in that my SS11 comes week on/off (Sun - Sun) and my SD6 comes every other weekend (Th - Mon). The reason for this is so that each parent has at least one night one on one with each child and to separate the children since they are out of control obnoxious together. We have twin toddlers together.

Anyway, every time my SS comes, it's like he has to be retrained. Last night when he came, our twins were having some problem during dinner so my DH took them to give me a break from them. He left me alone with his son. Well, his table manners are atrocious especially when he comes back from BM's. I can't stand poor table manners ESPECIALLY when it's as bad as his. He slouches, elbows on table, smacking and showing food in his mouth, talking with mouth full AND slurping his drink. I don't feel it's my place to always correct him and plus it pisses me off that I even have to correct this type of behavior at his age. So I politely excused myself and got my husband to go back to the table and I dealt with the twins. He knows how much I struggle with even being around his kids so it wasn't a big surprise to him.

Then this morning, I noticed my SS was still wearing his clothes from yesterday but put on a jacket to hide it. My husband doesn't notice these things always. I don't really care if SS wants to be a slob but when DH asked him if he'd changed and SS told him he had, I couldn't take it. Lying brat! I signaled to my DH that he had not changed so he asked him again and SS insisted that he had. I couldn't let it go. I don't think he should get away with a lie especially if one of us knows he's lied. I asked DH if he was going to make him change so he went up and looked at his clothes closely and said, "this is what you wore yesterday, go change!" and my SS huffed at him annoyingly and went to his room. I know it's not a huge thing but he has so many rude obnoxious behavior issues that are ignored (and he's praised for the most mundane things) that he thinks he's above us all.

I have mostly disengaged from them but there are some things I just don't think he should get away with. I think he gets away with a lot at BM because it's just her.

Do you think I should have let this one go and continue to let him get away with lies. To me it's like he's telling us we're just stupid.