Short and Sweet (not so sweet)
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I hate HATE being a step parent! I hate having feeling like I'm a visitor in my own home. I hate the look of their mother and her perfume in my home. I hate the text messages and phone calls. I hate wondering how to respond to conversations about the SK to my hubby. I that I sound like a jerk because I don't want them over for holidays. I HATE being a step parent.
Before critising me, things were better before we were married so please don't give me the 'you knew what you were getting into.' I feel like the rules have changed now that we are married and I HATE IT!
yeap things do change when
yeap things do change when your married....
I hate hearing....'well you made your choices' yeah and I still stand by them...but the skids have issues with me...so why should I make their issues my issues....
SO GLAD...they dont come around here no more.....like that Tom Petty song really... 'what ever your looking for, dont come around here no more'
Anyway, Im secretly planning a split xmas every 2nd or 3rd year.....Ill take my kids and me to Oz for xmas and my DH can stay home with his spoiled brat ball droppings for xmas lunch with his family....ill have mine with my aussie family and my DH can take the flight over to be with me after xmas lunch that day....woooohoooo one year out of 3 we wont be sitting down having lunch together...WHO CARES...ill see him a couple of days later...and as for the spawns....suffer you little brats...you dont like me remember so you dont get to come over to australia where we will have fun at the beach in the surf and we will all be just partying hard getting a tan and spending the money we would have had to spend on your airfare....cheers
Not one of us on here that is
Not one of us on here that is a SM will tell you that you knew what you were getting into. There is now way we knew the hell that would break loose when we tried to blend these families. It sucks, plain and simple. But, venting here helps...It is probably a good reason I didn't do something bad to BM and SD after the hell they put me through the last two years...
"feeling like I'm a visitor
"feeling like I'm a visitor in my own home."
I think this is the worst of all. . .it's like aliens have invaded and taken over your home every other week or whatever the time schedule is.
The other thing that is loathesome is that you have to plan EvErYthing around THEIR time. So basically YOUR world revolves around THEIRS!
Plan everything around their
Plan everything around their time.
SO TRUE!! I hate hearing 'I would take you out for date night that night but I have my kids' WHAT? Your kids come over so our life stops? Couples with kids at home full time still make time to go out! And please don't get me started on the rearranging for holiday time. Thanksgiving - already what a joke.
I'm sorry you are having such
I'm sorry you are having such a tough time...being a SM is the toughest and most thankless job in the world... arghhh...
Our home is suppose to be our safe haven, our little sanctuary...WE ARE NOT VISITORS IN OUR OWN HOMES>>>> I've take control and life is much better..I guess you can say I've disengaged somewhat from my SD and I'm at peace with myself...
I hope you find some peace...just breathe...
Z
Sacrifice, sacrifice,
Sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice....you've got to have the patience of a saint to be a SM. I have my teenage boys sharing rooms (and hear them complain about it all the time)just so the 2 year old SD will have her own bedroom when she comes over 4 nights out of the month. A total waste of space. I hate that being the only female in the family, I'm the one who makes a trillion trips to the restroom wherever we go because she says she has to go, and once you get her in there, she changes her mind. I hate hearing "I want to go to Mommy's house" all day long. GO ALREADY!
That sounded bad, didn't it?
That sounded bad, didn't it? Sorry...
Not bad at all. When SD8 was
Not bad at all. When SD8 was saying that all the time I told my DH why not let her go back to her moms. Secretly I was hoping that she would.
Thank you!
Thank you!
I am a bm and a sm. my
I am a bm and a sm. my daughters dad has nothing to do with her. he wants to party and do drugs whatever idc his family helps me so much its not even funny and my husband and i are always invited to their family functions and baby daddy isn't. the bm on th other hand is the same as my baby daddy she wants to party and do drugs im honestly thinking about hooking them up lol. she calls us and says come get ss1 with no concern of my schedule i have to cut my workday short when ss1 is with us because dh has an opposite schedule from me. i love my ss but he throws tantrums hits screaches throws toys and wants to be held all the time its rediculous. and everytime we get him he is sick it really pisses me off. then bm has a spidey sense as to when i get him back to normal and not sick anymore and diaper rash and diarreah gone and wants him back after 7-10 days of no contact. we are taking her back to court after the new year to hopefully get primary custody or atleast get the child support reduced since he is with us 50% if not more of the time. being a stepmom sucks but im just trying to be the best one i can.