SD steals and hides all BD things
BD has bought school clothes over the past 2 weeks and they are "disappearing" like crazy - shirts, socks, pants. SD will try to borrow her clothes before the tags are off (they are a size xs versus m) SD likes her boobs to pop out!! Anyway - I have said no to the new clothes - BD should wear them before SD gets her paws on them and destroys them! I was talking with BD about her missing clothes and said that I would look in SD room just to see if they "accidently" got put in their (I played it off like I actually thought they may have been thrown in by accident) then BD said something that struck a cord w/ me....she said "You better make sure SD is at her mom's cause you can't go in her room - dad won't let you." :jawdrop:
It is a shame that my whole house feels this way!! (the sad part is DH would probably not have my back) My first thought was..........the hell I can't.
But honestly, I wonder if I can??
LOL...so did you find the
LOL...so did you find the clothes?
Yeah you can cause you are
Yeah you can cause you are the adult and they are the children and there is no "NOT ALLOWED" in an adult relationship, however siblings, step or otherwise are NOT ALLOWED to take eachothers stuff without perission.
ok as a parent you have every
ok as a parent you have every right to go in any room in your house at your leisure.. if DH has a problem make him go on a search for the missing clothes after you have found them of course in sd room if they are in fact there and let him deal with the fact that his daughter is a little theif
You better make sure SD is at
You better make sure SD is at her mom's cause you can't go in her room - dad won't let you."
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I would have a freaking fit over this. It has always been know that “our” house is mine and DH’s. We let all kids stay there, but make no mistake…kids rooms still belong to DH and I. Either one of us will go where ever we please in our house.
Perhaps you should tell your DH what your DD said and see what he says. Let him know that you are a grown woman and you will not be treated like ANY part of YOUR home is not yours.
Does your DH always treat you like this?
Hell no...I would be in SD's
Hell no...I would be in SD's room immediately. SS keeps stealing BS's controller because he either breaks or loses his. We take it back everytime. Finally forced DH to buy him a new one. BS didn't care until he needed it (he has three) but when he did, we dealt with it.
I would be in your SD's room every time something is missing. These kids do not pay the mortgage and therefore have no expectation of privacy. You are giving her power when you don't react to something like this...
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Good point Willow.......but
Good point Willow.......but that would only get BD "in trouble" for saying that...sad; but true!! Dh is a girl in that aspect.
I have started to put a little black sharpie dot on the tags; this helps....I have found 2 shirts, 1 skirt and several pairs of MY underwear and misc thing! Her room is so disgusting that I don't even want to stick my6 hand in her drawers!! DH and I have gone through this w/ her room - he was good for about 2 weeks then he let it go again! I am going in their tonight; and I HOPE he says something!! }:)
thanks all!!
Yours, too? I do at least
Yours, too? I do at least weekly raids of SD12's room. I used to find everything from tape, to scissors to my panties in her room. She has even been known to steal from my 3 yo BD. A couple of weeks ago, BD3 said "Mommy, I found my lipgloss in H's room...she took it!" H said "that is mine, give it back" and started chasing her. I made them both stop and give it to me...sure enough, it was lipgloss that my sister gave my BD3 for her birthday. SD12 stole a 3 yo's birthday present from her!
I agree with the others and tell my kids often, it is MY house and my husband's house. No room is off limits to me, I may go into a room as I wish. I have heard SD tell my husband that I had no right to go snooping in her room after she got in trouble for taking my things. He told her I have every right to do so
I would search her room frequently just to p*** her off and prove a point!
Hbell, you haven't gotten any
Hbell, you haven't gotten any strongboxes yet? :jawdrop: At least get one for DD, and have her put all her new stuff in it. That's ridiculous, she shouldn't have to suffer because of SD's sticky fingers. I'd be putting on rubber gloves and a face mask and going through that room once a week with a fine tooth comb.
That's a great idea......her
That's a great idea......her b-day is coming up and I little "chest" with a key would be perfect for her!! it's sad but needs done! I just hope DH has my back - he has been known to throw me under the bus when it comes to princess........wish me luck
The hope chest my parents got
The hope chest my parents got for me long ago....has a very nice lock on it and has served the purpose of keeping things from sticky fingers.
My skids weren't the problem...nor my own son...but sometimes their FRIENDS weren't the most trustworthy...
UGH!! I distinctly remember
UGH!!
I distinctly remember VD at age 9/10 wandering into my bedroom and pulling out stuff out of my drawers than asking "what's this?" Of course GG was ok with this as "mi casa es su casa"
But in the reverse it's different: Tattlin' Prince Hygiene at age stb 7 at the time, told on me b/c I "didn't knock on HIS door of HIS room" when blaring Anime was coming from said locale at 10:30 p.m. on a Saturday night. The house btw, is in my name only.
So it all harks back to 100% responsibility 0% authority for stepmom and the reverse for skids! They can maurade your house at will, but you better not DARE go into a room that skid uses!
To hell with THAT!