SD just got engaged and her BM’s family is ALREADY causing her stress!
My SD has been engaged less than a month.
She told her mother about the engagement (they’re not very close) and in conversation mentioned that she “wanted” to have the wedding “sometime around” the first weekend of June… and “would like” to have it in a particular town at the beach
We don’t know how the information was relayed to the BM’s family, but SD got a call from one of her Aunt’s yesterday, telling her that the WHOLE family is making plans to book their air fare and hotel accommodations (they live half way across the country) for this town for the weekend of June 1st 2013
:jawdrop:
Um… SD and her FDH haven’t picked a venue or set a date… not to mention they haven’t sent out invitations.
WHOLE FAMILY?!?! Aunts, Uncles, Cousins… you gotta be kidding me! She doesn’t see these people and is hardly in contact with them. :?
Who are these people that they PRESUME they’re invited?
The Mister’s ex wife is practically penniless as it is… she sure as HELL isn’t going to be able to cover the expense of all these people.
I would never ask SD to limit her guest list based on any of “my” preferences… but COME ON!! The “bare minimum” list that SD has is already close to 100 people because her FDH is from a big family
So SD is stressing beyond belief. I told The Mister, he has to get on the phone call his Ex up and tell her that she HAS to set this straight with her family.
I don’t think that SD should have to be the one to deal with this. her stupid Mother is probably the one that set this in motion, SHE needs to be the one to fix it
(I am debating on calling Mister’s Ex myself and having a calm rational talk with her about this)
I agree with this. Her
I agree with this. Her wedding, her problem. Time for her to grow up and handle herself.
I agree that your SD has to
I agree that your SD has to handle it. I am getting married in less than a week. FDH and I paid for it out of pocket ourselves, and we wanted a SMALL informal wedding. I had to really cut my guest list because we both have big families. I made it VERY fair, the way I decided who to invite. This caused people to give me grief, however, bc they wanted certain people there. I told them, you want "so and so" to come, YOU pay. Never heard another word, but some are actually not coming bc of this. I did not invite kids, and that caused remarks. Well, part of it was cost, and part of it is that some of the kids who would have come are spoiled brats with no boundaries. Our location, time and day-that has been talked about negatively by a few-I ignored that, too. I was very calm, but firm, bc both of our mothers can be difficult, and we had several other family members make comments. I cannot believe the audacity of people. I was told who I had to invite, who I could not invite, and some other stuff. I have people coming who are not speaking to other, and I had to sit down and tell them to behave. :? Yeah, should have eloped.
The thing is, these weddings can spiral out of control with costs. I have watched people take out huge loans for huge weddings-makes no sense to me.
Your SD should nip this in the bud now, and whoever does not like it has to deal with it.