Regret moving in with him, ?how to get out?
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My bd and I moved in with my boyfriend and his daughter 4 years ago, I have been going to nursing school. For the last two years my bd and I have been miserable. I want to leave so bad but I feel guilty because he helped us when we were down on our luck. They are crude, annoying and inconsiderate people, they even talk to themselves out loud. I didn't see this in the beginning, our girls were 9 back then. I don't even like to be in the same room with them anymore. Does anybody have any ideas on how to gracefully end a relationship like this???
Get an apartment, pack and
Get an apartment, pack and leave. Tell him or don't either way no sense in you and your daughter being miserable.
There's no nice way or good
There's no nice way or good day to end a relationship. Unless of course both of you' want out. However if you and your daughter are miserable then I agree with the above poster. Find yourself and your daughter a place to live and go. Life is too short to be this unhappy. B
You also have a daughter who is learning about relationships by your example. What do you want her to learn. Currently it sounds as if you are showing her no matter how unhappy you and your child:children are. Stay.
If he's not violent just find a place to live and tell him it's over. If hr is violent or you think he mdy be. Judt leave.
Find your.own place and
Find your.own place and leave.
Know that no matters what reason you give him, he will think you used him.
Has your relationship with
Has your relationship with this guy been so one-sided that you feel you have contributed nothing? Never babysat - never cooked or cleaned?
Knowing the roles of women in the U.S. and most western societies you've probably contributed more than your share and have no reason to feel bad about leaving. I agree with the person above who said prepare a place to go and tell him while your daughter is elsewhere. If you even suspect there may be problems with your possessions have them removed while he is at work and the kids are at school.
Thanks every one, it seems to
Thanks every one, it seems to be unanimous. No he isn't violent, not that I am aware of. He's the type that will totally shut down if things don't go his way.