Ok...so I am new here and have been reading on for weeks beofe I joined. I have been with my DH for 11 years and have a SD13. We r going through normal teenage stuff but it has gotten to where 5: let's her cross the line with me repeatedly. She and I had a good relationship but over the last year her Mom has been telling her I broke up their family. It is not true but that doesn't matter. She has a hard life a Mom's house so I see how it is easy to blame me and think that if I was not here that she would have the life here with her Mom that I have with DH.

Ok...so here is another thing...my husband never hit me all of the years we have been together. Until about 1.5 years ago and it has continued ever since. Of course he is careful never to do it when anyone is around...but now he has his kid verbally abusing me and threatening me physically...all the while he is yelling at me in front of SD13 that it is my fault. So it is no wonder SD13 treats me like this.

I live 500 miles away from my family except for my brother and SIL who also happens to be my best friend of 18 years. But they no longer speak to me as they know everything and are mad I am still here.

I have been with my DH for many years and it is like he has snapped. He never used to treat me this way. I truly believe he is sick. I am a nurse and today he came to have lunch with me at work and we ended up arguing because he wanted to know why I felt SD13 needed to be punished. In the end he said ”Don't make me humiliate you at your work” and he did.

My soul is so broken as I have prayed and tried so hard but it just gets worse. I called the police one night when he shoved me so hard he knocked me off of my feet and sent me flying across the kitchen floor and the only thing that stopped me was the back door. I lost my nerve when they came and one officer was so nice I was just about to finally admit what happened when the other officer said they could not take him anyway as he had to leave marks to be arrested for misdemeanor assault. So I felt so hopeless in that moment.

I am devastated that my SD13 is turning into an abuser like her Dad. Of course he lies to his family but they all hate me anyway so I do not think they would do anything anyway. My MIL is verbally abusive to me whenever she pleases. BM also hates me so she takes joy in an encourages this behavior in SD13.

I know this is a heavy and long post but I am so lost and broken and just looking for any help. Thanks.