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JYMCat's picture

How do you guys feel when (or if) your spouse sends you pictures of their kids?

My S/O has sent me the same picture of SD twice. Once last night and once just now. He said he said he sent it once before but I only received it two times. When he sent it last night I didn't respond right away because I was visiting with my mother and my phone was across the room charging. When I did respond it was because he sent a follow up text message asking if I had received the picture. I told him I had but that I didn't respond because my phone was across room room charging. He just said "o okay" and changed the subject. Fast forward to just now. We had a tiff today on my lunch break so we didn't talk. Typical S/O behavior, he sends texts unrelated to the tiff because he's fishing to see if I'm still upset. So he sends me a text informing me about a shooting at LAX (we live in Los Angeles). I respond "sad". I don't expect a response. Half hour goes by and he texts me a pic of SD and it's the same one from last night. I've already asked him if he just sent that or if that's just the one he said he sent last night that I never got, finally coming through. I haven't received an answer.

Nevertheless, this isn't the first time he's sent me pictures. He has sent me multiple pictures of SD through the course of our relationship. I don't always mind. Some were relevant to conversations we were having and other pictures were random. It's the random pictures I'm curious about. Like the recent pictures. He sent them out of the blue. I'm wondering why he does this. All I can speak on is how it makes me feel. I feel like this is an extension of the fact that his world revolves around his daughter and he wants mine to also revolve around her. I feel he's testing me. To see how I react or what I say.

Do any of you experience this? I don't think it's a good idea to ask him why he does this. I feel like a jerk because when this happens, I find my eyes rolling and I really just don't care. The picture he sent me today and last night she's standing there in her Halloween costume eating a lollypop. Her face isn't painted and the costume is just Princess Sophia costume. I've seen her wear it before. It wasn't the one she WANTED I know two characters she wanted to be this year and neither one of her parents got it for her. I was at target with my S/O and we saw one of them. I said he should get it because it was his year to take her trick or treating. He alluded to the fact that her mom was getting her one, whatever, no big deal. My point is, she's not doing anything spectacular in the pictures and I feel like he wants me to just gush over it but I can't. Should I just suck it up and find a way to pretend to enjoy it when he interrupts my day with a random pic of his kid? I generally just give one word answers like "cute" or "cool". I feel this is sufficient but I feel like he wants more than that.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

DH texted me three or four pics of the skids when we first starting dating, I said they were cute, and that's it. He hasn't sent me any since then. He's not a picture person, really. He has those school picture keychain thingies on his keychain, and they're like four or five years outdated.

I don't need pictures of the skids. SS14 is here half the time anyway. SS9 is basically out of our life. If they lived far away and we only saw them once in a while, and we had a good relationship with them, then I might want to see one on occasion.

Disillusioned's picture

H sends me pics of SGS whenever he has them passed on (usually from FIl who received them from H's sister who received them from H's daughter as H's daughter would never send the pictures to H let alone me) Anyway, I take it for what it is..proud grandpa. No different than I might me of my niece or nephew, etc...

I ooh and aah a little "soooo cute" etc.. etc.. and it makes H's day

It's normal for parents to feel this way and do these things so I wouldn't be offended Smile

proudstepmommy's picture

^^^THIS^^^

Personally I have nothing wrong with DH sending me pics of SD. SD10 and I get along great. I'm sure I'll take pictures of SD tomorrow when she goes into work with me and send them to DH. SD likes to work and she's gets some pocket $ as we'll.

JYMCat's picture

All of you made good points. I guess it just agitated me because I was already mad at him for something unrelated to SD and because he kept sending me the same picture. It turned out in the end that when I received it the last time, it was from the first time he had attempted to send the picture Halloween night but I didn't get it until the next day. I probably just need to stop thinking that S/O is trying to make my world revolve around SD and just wanted to share. I'm glad I didn't ask him.