Oh my!! So much jealousy!!
My sister and her husband are total douchebags to the entire family. My own father and SM have completely 100 percent removed themselves from our dysfunctional family. No doubt they are having a blast. I have always known sister and BIL to get extremely jealous of other people’s success and accomplishments. And they always try to one-up on anyone who has an accomplishment. I knew they wouldn’t attend my graduation this year, but I went ahead and sent the invite. Neither of them are college grads and it infuriates my sister that she never made it that far. Anyhow, she told my mom they cannot attend. I never asked why, because I expected it to be because of some sports event that they have to attend for their son. Haha. I saw my sister this morning and she saw my graduation pic on mom’s refrigerator. She asked how my day was on that day and I told her it was amazing. I then asked why she couldn’t make the ceremony or lunch afterwards. She got weird and fidgety and then told me “Well the House next door to us was being auctioned and we wanted to be there during the auction”. Lol. Lol. It must suck to be her.
She got weird and fidgety and
She got weird and fidgety and then told me “Well the House next door to us was being auctioned and we wanted to be there during the auction”. Lol. Lol. It must suck to be her.
Yeeeeeaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh..........Ooooooooooooooookkkkk
Guess she couldn't think of a better excuse when placed on the spot
Wow. Sounds like someone is
Wow. Sounds like someone is jealous! Congratulations on your graduation, that is a huge accomplishment!
I don't blame your dad and SM
I don't blame your dad and SM one bit.
Congratulations on your completing your degree! Your sister can kick rocks.
She is my full blooded sister
She is my full blooded sister. But she’s always been extremely competitive with me ever since she got married. My dad used to swear that her husband does not like women because of a few comments that he made under his breath about women. And my SM always used to warn me that my sister talks horrible shit about me behind my back, things that my SM and Dad knew were made up. My SM once said to my sister, “you seem to be extremely jealous of your sister and I don’t know why that is, but it’s very apparent” and my sister got offended and denied it. The thing about step parents, I believe, they see the big picture. They know what’s up. So yeah, this was my masters degree graduation. Age 41. She didn’t attend my BS graduation years ago because we were young and she worked a ton of hours, but she was happy for me back then. All of the jealousy started after she got married. I think dad is right that BIL may not like women, but I’ll pinpoint it mote to say he doesn’t like successful women. Or fat women. Or gay women. Or unmarried women. He’s really something else and I fully blame them for dividing my family.
I get the challenge you have
I get the challenge you have with your lacking sister. My DW's sibs are all pretty much your sister. My bride had her son when she was 16 (My SS-26 who asked me to adopt him 5 years ago). Yet as a single teen mom she stayed in school and graduated with her HS class with honors. Her three younger sibs barely graduated. For her two brothers it was a closely run last minute thing as to whether or not they would graduate at all. Her sister actually graduated a year early though only because the state legislature reduced the requirements for graduation in order to save money on education costs. Her class was the transition class and with parental approval the Jr class could graduate rather than having to go for their Sr year. We pleaded with my MIL and FIL to not sign the approval because if there was any kid that needed that year of maturity it was SIL
So, here comes the keep up with the Joneses part. All of my brides three younger sibs got knocked up or knocked up their SOs or had their first child out of wedlock. There was a ton of lies and positioining from BIL1 and SIL on how it was different for them and better than it was for my bride. SIL was all wrapped around the axle about how she was not a single teen mom since she was 20 when she got knocked up. I shut that shit down when I pointed out that a 20yo should know better while a 16yo is still a child so she in fact was not better but was in fact a complete idiot. BIL1 and his bride tried to convince everyone that they got pregnant on their wedding night and the pregnancy test showed positive less than 72 hours later. I gave then clarity that they were full of shit, I invested insane $ in pregnancy tests during the early years of our marriage over my bride's paranoia over getting pregnant and could just about quote the performance specs for pregnancy tests I had read so many package inserts over the years, and once again pointed out that a 26 and 24 year old should know better compared to a 16yo.
My bride went on to complete a dual major BS with honors, an MBA with honors and a successful career as a CPA. My BIL1 and SIL have always been hell bent on competing with my wife and I financially. Not counting my income my bride out earns her three sibs when you combine all of their incomes. It is pathetic. Everything from "My garden shed is bigger than yours!" to "My computer is newer than yours and I have the newest phone!". No mention that they could not affort anything they were buying. Just an instant gratification superiority complex.
No mention of the their multiple bankruptcies, car reposessions, home foreclosures, stealing money from family, SIL's 80K in school loans on her unfinished college career that she has never paid a penny on, etc, etc, etc..... Until I remind them all of their shit. They know better than to pull that shit if I am around.
While BIL2 has foreclosures, reposessions, bankruptcies, etc... he at least does not try to present himself as Mr successful and has never tried to position himself as superior to his eldest sister regarding her being a single teen mom. He is just happy she is happy and successful.
The other two.... not so much..... for a very long time. BIL1 and his wife finally pulled theirs head out but SIL is still wallowing in the pile of shit of her own making.
They came to her undergrad graduation and her Grad degree graduation but it was all about drama that they created to put the focus on them. BIL1 and his them fiance manipulated and lied to everyone to be able get their way. They claimed a migraine for the bovine fiance because they did not want to go on one of the family trips around DW's graduation. We left DW's car keys in case they needed to run to the pharmacy. DW forgot her purse so a few minutes after we left we had to run back to the house to get her purse. She went in, they did not hear her, and she overheard them ragging on her and most everyone else, laughing about how everyone was so stupid to believe the migraine story and they were taking the car and doing what they wanted. DW grabbed her purse, took the car keys off of the counter and we all left for the day.
It took years of zero tolerance, full confrontation of BIL1 and the bovine bride's shit before they learned they could not win and to knock their toxic shit off or they would suffer. For the past 10 or so years we have been very close with them. Painful consequences for this crap works.
SIL and her husband have had 5 Hail Mary rescues on their mortgage in the past 8 or so years. The latest was when they quit paying their mortgage so that they could put a new fence up and update their landscaping. "But we needed a new fense!"
Every time the phone rings I cringe. It is likely to be either some tragedy or... bullshit bragging.