No school on Friday .. SUPPOSED to be DH's 4th long weekend
Per the CO, DH gets 4 extended weekends per year. They are not outlined, he only has to give BM adequate notice of which weekends they will be.
In the past, 30 days notice has not been enough for her; and she has withheld the time. So back in June, DH laid out the remaining 2 weekends for the year .. Labor Day weekend, and this coming weekend (10/18).
DH sent a reminder email last night to BM, forwarding the original email, saying "Just a reminder that this is my 4th extended weekend and I'll be picking skids up at 6pm Thursday."
She replied saying she never received his notification email and sorry, but she already made plans so that weekend isn't going to work for her. :?
She definitely received the email .. the Labor Day weekend went off without so much as a hiccup.
She did not respond directly
She did not respond directly to that email, but they emailed separately discussing the Labor Day weekend pick up/drop off details.
He won't have any problem picking them up directly from school; but it will create one hell of a shit storm.
LOL .. it's all just a big
LOL .. it's all just a big mess. A headache for no reason other than BM trying to give DH a headache ..
DH uses Gmail, which doesn't
DH uses Gmail, which doesn't come standard with that function. I think there's an add-on he can download.
Once again, this has never been an issue before. Usually it's because she doesn't have enough notice, or some other BS excuse .. she's never claimed to have never received an email before.
Lesson learned .. again
Sorry to hear that :/
Sorry to hear that :/
This is so sad - those poor
This is so sad - those poor girls.
I really wish BMs would learn to just be decent human beings.
However I am dealing with BM pushing SS on us more - this upcoming weekend is the first weekend we are supposed to have alone DH has told me he will not let her ruin as I have spent $300 already trying to make the weekend nice as it is a early anniversary celebration...but on his school calendar she has us getting SS a day early and keeping him a extra day late...just seems odd because last year we had the issue you are having.
My situation is more similar
My situation is more similar to yours sbm104 I honestly think once some BMs are fed up if using their child as a weapon to hurt bio dad they begin to see the benefit of unpaid babysitters. I honestly think our bm would allow us keep ss every day without a problem if she continued to receive her cs. Not only does she chrreny have every weekend and public holiday (longer weekend) without skid she also sends him to her mothers at least 2 nights per week. However at the beginning was a very different story and so had to fight tooth and nail to see his son. That's why he goes along with all of these arrangements eugh.
This way pretty much the
This way pretty much the same.
In the past 6 weeks with or without DH home (he is gone 3 weeks at a time) SS has not spent a weekend night except one that I know of with BM. It has turned ridiculous. It is like you said they all of a sudden see a benefit.
I am hoping DH will say no about us getting him longer but I doubt that will happen, only time I know she is going to throw a fit is at Thanksgiving it says "Odd years- DH gets SS from the day released from school at 6pm (our day anyways) until the Sunday after thanksgiving at 6pm. This means she will not have him for a holiday and will most likely flip her stuff. Though DH will not be home for Christmas so we plan sticking to the schedule.
I just wish they could see what is best for the child without a personal agenda.
That's exactly it with our BM
That's exactly it with our BM .. with papers recently filed with the courts, there will be a court date looming in our future. Which means BM wants to keep as much time as she can with the skids to inflate her CS calculation.
Yep it is all about the $$
Yep it is all about the $$
I agree .. overnights seems
I agree .. overnights seems like a terrible measure. Like so much in our current government and public systems, it's long overdue for a huge overhaul.
Thinking out loud .. if DH
Thinking out loud .. if DH picks them up from school Thursday, BM will likely try to file some sort of charge for parental kidnapping. Not sure how feasible that would be, but I can imagine the short term fall out could be intense for several reasons .. one being that SD5's birthday party is scheduled for Saturday.
He could let her withheld the kids and file in court .. but that's more money for us and a judge will not likely actually held her in contempt.
He's talking to his lawyer later today.
What a mess. I am guessing BM
What a mess. I am guessing BM did not truly forget about the arrangement and make plans, but that she is just trying to be a pain in the ass. I agree with the others though, it seems like the BMs eventaully do get tired of doing this and she may eventually start to leave skid with you all the time like my SD's BM is doing. I would take the alone time with your DH while you can. We had 50/50 week on/week off up until a couple months ago and now we have SD almost 100% of the time. BM has only taken her one weekend in the past month and a half.
I can't imagine her ever
I can't imagine her ever giving skids up. Her mother lives with her full time and her new boyfriend/husband and her are expecting a new baby. She is too hung up on appearances and impressions to let anyone believe she is less than MOTY.
The only chance we have of gaining more permanent increased custody time is if she gets deployed or re-stationed out of state .. DH would petition to not have skids leave and would probably pursue full custody at that point.
BM emailed this morning ..
BM emailed this morning .. girls apparently woke up with high fevers and won't be going to school today. That ruins any plan that DH could pick them up directly from school. If the girls are truly sick, I hope they feel better .. but I seriously doubt they are.
DH's attorney has been trying to contact BM's attorney since Monday. No response still.
In your OP you said that your
In your OP you said that your DH sent an email outlining the last two long w/e, and that labour w/e went ahead as outlined IN THAT EMAIL??? So you can assume that she did in fact read it. (Or did your DH send your another confirmation text or email leading up to labour w/e?) Just thinking here (or though it might be a bit late).. if she knew about labour w/e because of original email, could your DH point that out to her, that b/c she knew about labour w/e plans, it's proof that she did read the email, and that he does not appreciate her going against the CO??
Our BM pulled the "SD is sick card" every time she knew we had fun plans for the w/e (took SO nearly 3 years to figure that out, so for the last 6 months, he no longer shares info with BM about our fun trips).
Your life is very much like ours, there's a new BM drama nearly every week, SO has a big lawyer bill b/c of it too, UGH. I hope you guys get it sorted.
We know she read the email.
We know she read the email. She's claiming she never got it so she thinks she has some sort of deniability or something. Idk.
The fevers were BS. She had the kids outside at a pumpkin patch all day. It was just her way of keeping the skids home so that DH couldn't pick them up directly from school.
We don't share any plans with her unless they are related to scheduling (like informing about extended weekends) or we're required to because of distance.
I call BS on the fevers. I
I call BS on the fevers. I have 4 kids in my house.....and never, NEVER, have two of the been suddenly sick on the same day.
Its always that one gets it.... Then two days later it spreads to another etc etc. Not once have I ever woken to two children too sick for school.
She was afraid that dh was going to pick them up from school.
DH spoke to both of them on
DH spoke to both of them on the phone yesterday. Apparently they spent the day at a pumpkin patch picking pumpkins and doing hay rides. When he asked SD7 if she was feeling better, she didn't even know what he was talking about.