New here-I have a thief as a stepson
I posted this last night and after reading over the forums today I thought I might get more advice under general discussion. I am so glad I found a place to vent because not everyone knows how hard it is to be a stepparent sometimes. I have been with my husband since I was 15, his son was 5 at the time. Looking back now I was really too young for that responsibility. My stepson lives with us and his real mom doesn't really see him much. I've heard from others that the teenagers party with her, drinking and smoking but I have no proof. I have 3 girls now who are 8, 2, and 1. I found out today that my stepson has been stealing tools from my husband and jewelry from me. And worst of all he has emptied out all 3 of my daughter's piggy banks and has stole their baby bracelets and the one I had when I was a baby. These are items I can't get back since they are gold they've probably been scrapped and melted down. He's been getting his friends that are 18 to pawn the stuff for him. The sheriff said I have to press charges to get my stuff back. When I confronted his friends or his so-called friends, they told us everything he stole from us that they've pawned. They also told us about my girls' piggy banks. This is so hurtful to me. I told my husband I dont want his son in my house NOmore and that I am gonna press charges on him. He is 17 - he knows right from wrong and to steal from little girls is just wrong. We had also bought him a truck for Christmas last year. He failed driver's ed and the truck is just taking up space in the driveway except when he sits in it to listen to music and lets the battery go dead. After him stealing our stuff I told my husband he doesn't deserve the truck. I also told my husband if he lets his son come back and live in my house me and our 3 girls will leave. Granted that is his son and children are allowed to make mistakes. There's no excuse for stealing from your family. I'd rather be spit on than stole from. Am I wrong for not wanting him living here? Or by making my husband choose if I stay or his stealing,lying son stays. I want nothing more to do w/ this him. I'm so fed up and really needed to vent before trying to get some sleep tonight. Any suggestions or comments will be appreciated.
Thiefs are usually looking
Thiefs are usually looking for attention in anyway they can get it which this way is negitve attention I'm not sure how to handle such a situation but tell him to get a job and maybe get his father to spend some father son time teach him how to be a real man even if takes something like a couple beers to show him your a friend not an enemy and get inside his head figure it out make him feel somethings bothering him weather he will tell you are not I could be completely wrong but I was the little thief in my family and I just wanted some of my mothers time!
This one is definitely
This one is definitely difficult and I'm suspecting that he is stealing to feed some sort of addiction. Maybe you should ask your husband to test him and see if he is using drugs. The only thing that puzzles me is that you have know this kid since he was 5 and he's started to get himself in some pretty heavy situations, maybe he feels like he's been the outsider all his life and maybe he is seeking attention now that he is nearing adulthood. But I do agree that him and his dad need to have some serious conversations as friends to try to figure out what is going on in his heart/head.