Hi,

*****SORRY this is LONG***

I did a google search on crazy ex-wives and came across your site.

I will try to be as concise as I can be, but i am about at the end of my rope.

I am 38 years old, and my boyfriend has lived with me for 3 years. I will say in summary that the relationship was a rebound for both of us as we had recently left other long term relationships. I have a great ex husband, and my boyfriend has a alcoholic, crazy ex-wife. Crazy is too light of a verb though i am afraid.

My BF did not believe that she would act the way she has acted. He told be she was an alcoholic and that she was very promiscuous. No one was prepared for the inevitable. In the beginning she just would text and send hateful emails. I urged my bf to fight back when she started telling lies about him not providing her with money prior to the divorce.
That began a little email war that escalated. Here are some of the more noteworthy incidents:

She slept with one of my bf's friends and co-workers to learn information about us and our work (we work for the same company.)

She completely alienated his then 15 year old and 20 year old daughters with her lies. My BF wanted to get custody of the youngest, but she refused to leave the state of Florida. My boyfriend had relocated to Colorado to live with me and she would have had to have moved.

She contacted our work and said that we were using drugs and stealing from the company.

In short the woman is hateful, vulgar, drunk and mean

And the list goes on. In retrospect we should not have engaged her, I thought it was wise to keep an eye on her as my BF was ordered to pay her alimony for life, and eventually he planned to fight this as she has been living with another man since the separation.

Now to the meat of the story:

Last spring the youngest daughter called in a panic. She said that her mother had gotten extremely drunk and was threatening to kill her. My bf urged the youngest to call 911. She did, and the mother was held for 3 days for evaluation as alcohol, guns and knives were found at the scene.
My BF then got custody of his daughter who was then 17. During the 2 years of living with her mom she had gained around 80 pounds, droppped out of high school her sophmore year, smoked marijuana and had an abortion. Great huh? Both she and her sister said they wanted a fresh start so they moved out here.

Let me say that i have never had children or lived with children or teens.

In the months prior to the move i had developed a relationship with the oldest. I believed that she really wanted to get back in college, get a job and move ahead with her life. I was wrong. From the beginning, she would stay up all night role playing on the computer, never showered or took pride in her appearance, and showed no motivation to get a job. She finally got a job after 3 months but at that point my relationship with her had really degraded. My bf would drive her to work every day, we would feed her and she would do nothing else. After numerous arguments with my bf, he finally agreed that she needed to get her own place.

Meanwhile the youngest was really a surprise. She helped around the house, enrolled in a virtual high school and really seemed to want to make a new life for herself and not end up like her mom.

This changed last fall shortly before she turned 18. She is a very self focused girl, which i suspect a lot of teens are. We got her clothes, trips to the salon, took her with us on all of our outings, but she showed little interest in joining clubs or getting out on her own to meet new friends. Her main interest at the time was talking or texting to her bf back in Florida. She wanted to go back to Florida and stay with her boyfriend and his family at Christmas. We felt bad for her and bought her a plane ticket so she could do this, with the stipulation that she get a job prior to the trip so she could buy clothes and have some spending money.

She ended up getting a job at McDonalds. Not the best job, but still a job. She hated having to work and her personality quickly changed. Prior to leaving for her trip she dropped out of her internet school (she was 18 and felt it was better to get a GED). When she returned from her trip she refused to return to her work and refused to go to school. At this point, I had little patience. I told my boyfriend either she works or goes to school or both but she had to do something. She threw a fit and went to live with her sister.

Ultimately they both moved back to Florida to live with their mom. Since then their mother (the ex) has been on a huge campaign of hate. She has a blog that she routinely posts her lies on. The youngest is fueling this hate as her mom allows her to drink, smoke pot and not work or go to school. They have posted photo shopped pictures of me, contacted my friends on facebook, say i use drugs, etc and live to harass me.

I finally persuaded my bf to contact his lawyer to end her harassment, which he did reluctantly. It has been 2 months and we have heard little from the lawyer other than that she is working on it.

So finally i get to my point. The stress is killing me. Deep down i resent my boyfriend as i would never be in this situation if i was not with him. I love my boyfriend and what once was, but i simply don't know how much more i can take.