Hey everyone!

This is my first blog, and I am new to the whole thing. I have been looking for something like this for a while. It's hard when you need to vent about the BM and you don't really have anywhere to go (except for possibly the BF's mother). So I figure I will tell you a little about my situation..

I am 21 years old, and consider myself a step mother of twins. They are 3 years old, and will be 4 in a few months. Their father and I aren't married, but we live together and have been seeing each other for quite some time now. The children live with us one week on, one week off. Luckily, we do not have to deal with child support or the court system. BD and BM have come to an agreement and they stick to it well. The kids call me by my name, and I would not ask them to do otherwise. We all mesh together very well.

I knew the BM before I ever met my BF, and I had no idea that her children were actually THEIR children, mostly because I didn't care for her then and did not make it a point to interact.. we had a very similar group of friends.
She is not of good character. Recently involved in an affair with her best friends husband, she got out of that relationship and married another man 6 months later. She doesn't work, and she is very lazy. It's like she doesn't know the meaning behind the word MOTHER. I have seen and heard so many bad things regarding the kids, but all I can do is set good examples for them.

Anyway, there are just some things that I can not stand about this BM. Like missing doctor's appointments!
The BF and I told BM about SS doctor's appointment two weeks ahead of time. SS has a lazy eye that needs to be corrected while he is still young. In short, BM skipped the appointment and said she didn't have a way to get there because her and her husband share a vehicle and he had it. But at the drop of a dime, she can call up her friend and get a ride into town to have lunch and hang out.
Meanwhile, I rescheduled the appointment and took SS. We were referred to an optometrist, so I took him there as well, as well as to the glasses store and to the fitting and to another appointment. We don't even have a co-pay! Insurance covers EVERYTHING. BM didn't even have to spend a dollar. All she had to do was get off her rear and take her son to the doctor. Since BF and I have been together, she has not made one appointment. I can count 6 right now that I know of. I don't understand how a mother who gave birth to a child can not care about that child's well being. His eyesight was horrible, and surgery may be necessary to fix the eye. He is supposed to leave the glasses on at ALL TIMES (except bath and bed) so that when we go back to the doctor (I am taking him of course) they can see how much the glasses are really helping the lazy eye. My problem is that she doesn't watch the kids at her house. They run around and do whatever. She WILL NOT watch him and make sure he is wearing the glasses. I admit, it gets tiring saying the same thing over and over again, but that's your child! It's his well being. I buy these kids clothes, take them to school, cook them dinner, play with them, watch cartoons with them, teach them good manners and respect, discipline them, everything a mother should do. She sits at home on Facebook or watches TV and tells them to go play with their older brother and sister. It drives me mad!
When they come to our house they are wild. We tell them not to talk with food in their mouth, to say please, to ASK for things not DEMAND, to talk normally and not yell everything, etc. By Friday, they are behaving, but still being children. When we take them to her house and they come back a week later, it's like there were never any rules.

It's SO frustrating sometimes.
Not to mention, this is my first experience with children, since I do not have any of my own.
I love them, and their father.
I just have a hard time putting up with BM's shit.

Well, venting was good!
Feel free to comment.. I don't know anyone on here, but I would like to! I need a support system of women, and men, who know exactly what I am going through.

Thanks y'all!