For around five bucks, you can get a plastic fitted mattress cover to put beneath the sheets on the beds. It doesn't solve the problem of the bedwetting, but it does solve the problem of the mattress-ruining. If traveling or staying at someone else's house, take a spare one to use there. I used them when both my kids were potty-training and they are lifesavers.

My BS9 likes to help out with laundry and, with some supervision, I let him wash clothes. There is absolutely no reason why children this age cannot be responsible for cleaning up their own pee messes. They need to strip the bed, then they need to wash the sheets, put them in the dryer, clean the mattress, re-make the bed, etc. No way would I touch it.

My SD15 wet the bed at our house when she was 11 and I totally freaked. We hadn't had them for a visit in several months, because their mother wouldn't let them come, and I was totally floored that a kid this age was still wetting the bed. It was a new development, too, because she'd never done it before, but according to her sister, it had been happening a lot. She has ADHD and is on all sorts of meds for that, so who knows? It could've been the meds or it could've been something else. It never happened again, so I don't know.

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The best way to stop the bed wetting is no drinks after 5 or 6 and stand over them and make sure they go to the bathroom before bed.
I would get a mattress cover and see if they have pullups or depends in their size. Eventually they will get the message either through training or humilitation. They aren't having accidents this is a habit for them if they do it all the time.

ss6 still wets the bed, even with medication. The medication isn't guaranteed to work 100%. He was actually bedwetting less when he wasn't on the medication. I think it made him regress more because BM told him it would keep him from peeing the bed and it hasn't. Luckily he's still small enough that pull ups and a plastic sheet working for us. There is a family history of bedwetting so I am guessing he'll grow out of it. Not sure what we will do if he's too big for pull ups...ugh. hadn't thought of that yet.

wet the bed almost every night. I made him strip the sheets himself. We had the mattress cover. I know this is terrible, but I got to the point where I would not even put sheets on his bed anymore bc he did it so often. he would just sleep under a cover and on the plastic sheet. I do not think he does it anymore. He has not done it here lately, at least I do not think he has. He is almost 12 and I'll tell you know that I would be livid if he did it at this age. i would totally do the lastic sheet again and make him wear adult depends.

Is she wetting the bed because she is stressed out or is it a medical condition?
Some kids wet the bed (especially older kids) because something is happening in their life that they feel they can't talk about so it manifests itself in their sleep and bedwetting is one of the symptoms. That and sleep walking are really common.

This website is pretty general but it might help you get to the root of the problem.
http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/disorders/bedwetting.shtml

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My Bio Son wet the bed until he was 12. He had abandonment issues with his dad, he seen him for 3 years then he dissappeared and when he did come bac and BS started going there he had issues with their family. All of which I didn't know about until later as he said nothing. His SM used to use him as a babysitter for her 2 small ones and when they did something wrong, he got the blame for letting them do it. This was too much responsibility for him coming from an only child home and mind you, he was too young for these sorts of responsibilities anyway...he was 9 through 12 while this happened.

When he turned 12 he got to choose when he went to his dads and he chose not to go, within 1 month of ceasing visits the bed wetting stopped. I am a good loving mother, my child is not spoiled, we saw many doctors for this and it embarrassed BS to no end, he didn't go to sleep overs because he was scared he would do it. We stopped all drinks after 5pm and I even woke him at midnight and took him to the toilet. The drink and going to the toilet are not the issue the bedwetting is the symptom for a bigger problem, together we would change and wash his sheets and that never worked either. I just loved him and rode through it, they do not deserve punishment but understanding, once my son stopped going where he didn't want to be and was old enough to talk to me about it, it all stopped as quick as it started.

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My SD (13 today) wet the bed every night until about 3 months ago. She had decided on her own to stop taking her Advair for asthma, because she was doing better. I wasn't pleased but we discussed it with her Pediatrician at her last visit and she said it was ok to try to go without. But if she got worse again to start it back up. I had just started to notice that SD didn't need to wash her sheets as often(I firmly believe in letting them take care of it themselves- SD has been since age 9). She had literally gone from soaking the bed every night to almost once a week or less.

Then she got a cold again, and her breathing got worse so I told her she should go back on Advair. After a few days back on it she began wetting nightly again. I haven't found any studies linking advair to bedwetting, but sometimes the science is in your own home. When SD stopped it again, the bedwetting stopped again. Well, it still happens but now it's down to once or twice a month. I never mentioned my theory to her b/c if she needs Advair again I want to be able to have her take it. Of course if she thinks it makes her wet the bed she'll understandably refuse.

Just thought I would add that to the discussion. Sometimes we don't know what kids meds are doing to them if the drug co didn't list a symptom because the population in the study is more prone to it (bedwetting in children for example) as it is.

I would just teach them how to change the sheets, and have them put them in the tub if they aren't old enough to do laundry unsupervised. It's a tough one to get through. I was very frustrated myself throughout, but only corrected SD about it if she got lazy about washing her bedding.

On a side note- SD confessed to GAL in front of me (it was the first time I heard it myself) that BM refused to wash SD's sheets or allow SD to wash them herself as punishment for wetting. She just made her continue to sleep on the pee soaked sheets. She also told SD she would sleep in the bath tub or garage if it kept up. Those were some of the things that won us custody in the end.

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