I need some advice on whether it is normal for a grown up stepdaughter with a child of her own to be hanging around her father 24/7? When she isn't at our house, she phones him at least three or four times a day. While I think that it is wonderful for a daughter and father to be close, I find her neediness excessive. Am I being unreasonable to want my space and not have her around practically all the time, particularly when she treats me with utter contempt and disdain? When she was in a relationship, we hardly ever saw her. She has no friends of her own and is a rather anti social person and daddy is the only person she wants to be around. She does see her mother occasionally, but is not very close to her.

She is a single mother of 25 years old, but refuses to get a proper job, preferring to try all sorts of fly by night schemes to make a living, that never amount to much. She would rather go off picking berries or some other foolish thing, then knuckle down to a job. Her excuse being that she won't work for a boss. She is on welfare and my H helps her out a lot financially. He keeps telling her to get a job, but she comes up with all sorts of reasons why she won't. Without being out in the work force, she never has the opportunity of meeting people her own age or making friends. So other than her father, she really does not much else going for her.

I would be most appreciative for any input you guys out there can give me. In my opinion, a young woman her age should be out and about with her own circle of friends and not hanging around her father as much as she does. Am I wrong in thinking this way??

Thanking you all
Marbear