You know the deal...spawns are all important, #1's, nobody else exists... I spent two hours yesterday at my bf's open house for work (against my better judgment) with him, his two girls and my kids. It's enough that I have to deal with his 7 yr old baby talker that long, but even worse...when we ran into one of his bosses, he turned his back to me/my kids, introduced his girls and even mentioned his other child that wasn't there. Never acknowledged me standing there. The man even looked our way and was perplexed. Bf realized what he'd done... 10 mins later. In addition to some other events of yesterday as well as the past week, I've decided... keeping time with him/his kids to a minimum is not enough, I've got to cut it out completely. No more getting the kids together. No more going to his son's games. No more even telling him when my kids' events are. The question I have for you all is...do I tell him, "Hey, this is how it's got to be going forward..."? Or just do it (avoiding the kid stuff)? Option 1 will likely involve an argument. Option 2 might involve a delayed argument, idk. At this point, I'm not sure I care if this breaks us up. We have been dating a year and a half, and every.single.fight has been about his kids. Specifically, about his lack of boundaries, coddling, and disney behavior. He knows he screwed up and acted like he felt bad, and I don't think he realized that THAT was just an example of how life always is for me/my kids when it comes to him/his kids. Now I just have a concrete example to refer to when I try to explain to him where I stand in his list of priorities.
I hoped my kids hadn't picked up on it, but my son11 took my hand a little later and said, "I'll be your bf since BF isn't being a very good one..."