My 16 year old daughter has become a narcissitic lier...(wow..that's a tough one to spell..)

While she has gone through most of her life getting her own way, as she's gotten older, she has become a manipulative liar and will stop at nothing to get her way; and while being older and having to accept more responsibilities, she absolutely refuses.

She makes excuses regarding going to school. Her MD will no longer write excuses for her so she HAS to go. From there she takes on any sort of reason NOT to be there and oftentimes her Mom has gotten called from work to go pick her up.

She has developed an attitude that she cares about nobody but herself and while hating school, she has also developed an attitude where she can't stand anybody. She's upset because her dad can't be around all the time (because he has to work out of state); and gives him a constant guilt trip. Tells him what a horrible dad he is..and thus he's given her everything she wants including a brand $450+ X-Box (which was supposed to be an early Christmas present..)..and then he turned around and bought her a brand new laptop for Christmas.

While she manipulates the heck out of him; making him feel badly for not being around more; it's really not his fault as his ex and her husband moved the family halfway across the State so that HE could find a better job. He and his wife are forever broke and count on the child support check to make up for what they needlessly spend money on like beer and cigarettes; along with their habit of constant gambling.

While I make a very long story short regarding my husband's employment..he had been employed with the railroad for over 25 years. Bad management at the railroad he was working at caused him to lose his job. A friend that he'd worked with on his previous railroad job asked him to come to Alabama where he had a very good position for him. Sometimes a person has to do what they have to do and to keep from losing all of his pension and RR retirement benefits, he had no choice but to accept the position.

I myself had to stay behind and take care of my elderly dad. We bought his home as it never would have sold otherwise with all the things that needed to be done with it such as the roof having to be replaced, etc.

To continue, his daughter and I are fairly close and have had many discussions regarding why her dad has to work so far away. With the money he makes, she gets many things that other kids her age wouldn't have, as she bleeds him dry.

In the past few years she has gone through at least 5 cell phones where the screens have gotten cracked..and Disney Daddy always bought her another one. Laptops he's bought for her have gotten trashed for one reason or another and again, Disney Daddy bought her a new one also. I'd say he's bought her at least five or more..and for Christmas, she got another new one; of which I'm guessing will last a mere month or two and that one will be trashed also.

When she wants a pizza..she gets to order a pizza. Sometimes the biggest and most expensive one they have. She orders Jimmy John's when she feels like it also..sometimes ordering two at a time for lunch the next day. She's order movie upon movie at the cost of at least $2.10 a piece. Most days she orders at least six at a time and the last time I went to our bank account, I did some numbers on the amount of money she spent in just one month...

$119.00!!! In one month!!! While she goes through tons of data ordering all of these, I wondered where in the heck she had time to watch up to six movies in one day!! She told my husband that she sneaks her cell phone into class and watches movies all day!!

Of course Disney Daddy was kind enough (or rather stupid enough) to let it slide, giving her his tablet so that it wouldn't run up our data; yet every month we get a message telling us that she's used up all our data at the cost of an extra $15 a month for every time she goes over.

Most of the time I've kept my mouth shut about this as it's between he and his daughter..knowing that it eventually would catch up to he and his ex..who also spoils her rotten. If they don't she throws temper tantrums and throws things; has threatened suicide several times if she doesn't get her way, and started cutting herself when anybody told her no.

I myself have no children of my own..so to tell them how to parent is outside my capabilities I guess. However, I'd be treating things a whole lot differently had I had the chance. This child had needed discipline from day one; and should have been used to the word "NO" a loooonnng time ago!! Yet Daddy said she was a "sensitive child" that had to be dealt with in a certain way. While she'd go off and pout when she didn't get her own way..Daddy would go after her.

One time her and I got into a stupid argument over a card for his parent's anniversary. He told me to get a Hallmark as parent's their age always turn over the back and look (yep..they do!!), yet his daughter got upset with me because he wouldn't get one from the Dollar Store.I finally told he that she could choose one from there, yet we still had to get one from Hallmark. THEN she thought the card she chose wasn't good enough..and we had to go back to Daddy while she cried to him that I didn't think her card was good enough. Daddy gave her $10 bucks to quit crying...

Seriously!??

Dad and Mom paid for Driver's Ed classes for her at the cost of $400 and she refused to go. Knowing that she wouldn't get her license if she didn't go..she finally decided she'd take them..which cost them another $400 bucks. She wanted to get involved in Color Guard and they thought she'd finally found something she loved as she never missed any of it. They sent her to Color Guard Camp ($800) and bought her all the gear she needed at a huge expense. She eventually tired of that too though..that along with band where she decided to play the flute. One was rented for her and after a few weeks, she decided she hated it; yet for Christmas, she decided she wanted a flute. Dad bought her one for $100, even though she had no idea how to play it and eventually she got bored with that also. On a visit to her room, I found it laying on the floor out of the protective box it came in; the pieces all dented and useless.

She not only has become a manipulative snot, but also a narcisstic (sp) individual. She lies about everything that can get her what she wants and doesn't have any feeling for anything that she does wrong.

One day we were out having lunch together and she told me that she doesn't really care about people's feelings. She didn't understand why people make such a big deal when someone dies..they're just dead. She likes to watch serial killer movies and loves to read books about serial killers and what makes them tick.

Recently she told the biggest lie of her life. Because she hates her older brother for having goals and keeping them, she's jealous of that. She hates the fact that he has a good job; a girlfriend he loves and they bought an old mobile home, fixed it up..and are now living on a permanent camp site very happily, for some reason she can't stand that. The fact that he moved out of the house and she got his old bedroom wasn't good enough for her..absolutely nothing makes her happy regardless how much her parents spoil the heck out of her.

While she's spent time in facilities for kids her age regarding mental issues; she said she actually loved it; when she actually hated it. Again, if she doesn't get her way, she'll start cutting herself again until she does. Her temper tantrums have gone from bad to worse and to the point that my husband thought that maybe she should live with him for a bit. She wanted nothing of it and called him every name in the book.

Bottom line, she's a very angry spoiled child. While I saw this coming a very long time ago, I kept my mouth shut. Spoiling a child does nothing but make them want more..as they never hear the word "NO".

Well, because she can't stand her brother and never could, and due to her jealousy of him..when in one of her counseling sessions she said that he had made her do some horrible sexual things when they were kids. We all know this is very far from the truth as never once was she afraid of her brother in all the years I've known her. As close as her and her dad were, not once did she tell him about anything her brother did to her. These things were supposed to have happened around the time she was 9..and at that time, I never knew a happier kid. Her and I spent countless days together and were very close. Not once did she ever not tell me her secrets.

Social Services is all over it and so are the police. They are saying that girls my stepdaughter's age don't just make things up like that, yet one as narcisstic as my stepdaughter is..yes they do. I reached out to a good friend of mine who is a psychologist, and who deals with these things all the time. She told me that kids can and do make all sorts of stories up when a broken home is involved. Sometimes it doesn't even have to involve a broken home, but a jealousy issue that goes beyond that when dealing with narcissitic teens.

I hate to ask this but has anyone ever gone through anything like this? It's such a horrible situation as I know my stepson would never do such a thing. While my husband and his ex are trying to find a really good counselor for their daughter so that she doesn't continue down the same road of her narcissism before it gets worse..it's a horrible situation.

I'm hoping to get some positive advice out of this post..not those poking fingers at the situation. As I'm on the outside looking in..I can see who my stepson is..and he definitely isn't one to do such a thing. However, my stepdaughter, who I love to pieces also, is a very manipulative lier.