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My stepdaughter is ruining my marriage.

stepwitch31's picture

:jawdrop: So how do you respond to your 15 year stepdaughter saying she had a night mare about you(stepmom) hanging from her ceiling dripping blood? Yeah-any advice would be appreciatedI think I may have a mini Hannibal Lecter living in my house.

starfish's picture

:? maybe tell her how odd, you had the same dream about her.

okay not really, but that's what i would be thinking...... don't leave your drinks unattended around her and lock your bedroom door at night..... think about getting a deadbolt for the bedroom.

glynne's picture

My SD told me once that she spit in her stepfather's drink. I don't eat at any restaurant that SD works at - I know she'd put something in my food. It's weird the lives we live....

redheaded_stepmom's picture

Oh my! What a scary, creepy thing to say. I would definitely discuss it with her father and keep an eye on her at all times. My SD has told me about dreams she has had with me in them, and they always creep me out. I do not trust her and am always on alert. Sounds like she is either trying to scare you or she needs some serious help.

I am confused's picture

First things first: GET HER INTO COUNSELING IMMEDIATELY.

Worry about the rest of it later.

TheOtherMom's picture

Don't know her but would say she is trying to intimidate you. Reasserting control in the house. She is at that age.
We females can be so territorial and stupid. I venture to say even worse than men.
However, if she is not the ODD type of gal, I would say get her into counseling and try to attend a Family Workshop and some church.

Stick's picture

Stepwitch - play her game and listen to TheOtherMom. She's being a brat and trying to shock / scare you.

Laugh it off and say any number of things...

From...

Are you sure it was blood and not strawberry jelly?

Did your father kill me or did you? Or did I hang myself from having to hang out with you?

Kids can go into very dark places. I would gauge her reactions and try not to be freaked out by it too much. And see where it goes. If she is dark about other things though... suicide, cutting herself, etc. maybe get her into therapy.

For a while, when I was about 18 or 19, I went into a true crime phase and read a lot of true crime books. I stopped when I started having nightmares from what I read. I don't know why I was like that... or what prompted it. I still, to this day, watch some real crime type shows (TruTV, Snapped, Biography, etc.) Dark fascination I guess. And I'm not about to go killing anyone ... YET! Smile ha!

Also, SD's friends over here have also gotten into that phase much earlier than I did. It's disturbing to me because at 18-19 or so, I wasn't mature enough to handle it. I think these kids have access to wayy too much info and too much disturbing, dark info.

Anyway... Try to discern if she is trying to scare you or if she is truly scary. And then, act accordingly!

Best of luck! Let us know how it goes!

TheOtherMom's picture

LMAO!

KittyKat's picture

Not only is that UNCALLED FOR, it is NOT NORMAL!!

Seriously, what 15 year old girl is not hanging out with friends? Playing sports? Joining CLUBS? Dreaming about "dream guys" (my daughter is now 18, but Nick Jonas was her choice at 15!!)

If she lives in YOUR house (do you own it with your significant other?), I'd truly tell her to get some HELP and get her out as fast as you can.

My BioD doesn't really like my H very much, but she certainly doesn't have DREAMS of HIM.

That GIRL needs a LIFE other than obsessing over YOU.

herewegoagain's picture

I'd tell dad, make him take her to counseling or get out...some of these crazy kids have killed smoms...

zuzieq611's picture

She's either manipulative or is struggling with feelings that she needs counseling for. I like Steps advice.