me and my husband have almost divorced several times because of his daughter!!!!!!!!!
first of all i cant beleive i found this sight wow now i know im not just a crazy b***h.my situation is a lil more advanced than some of what ive read about ill start from the top.me and my husband got together when i was 6 months pregnant with my son he had a 2 year old lil girl we fell in love and got married after a year. the two year old when i met her she already had alot of issues such as masturbating anywhere at anytime constantly whinning and throwing fits beyond normal hitting her dad and herself i felt bad for her i thought maybe since i had a ruff childhood i could relate and maybe help her well needlesss to say things have gotten much worse shes almost 5 now and she says she wants to kill me she hates me she doesnt listen to anyone anything you tell her not to do she will do it for spite she steals things when we are sleeping she lies all the time she talks back constantly when my son was 18 months old i caught her holding him on top of her humping him needless to say i freaked i dont know what to do shes vindictive and evil when me and her dad fight she looks at me and smiles and says mean things i know she doesnt want me around and i cant stand her anymore ive tried bribing, being nice, time out ,corners, and even spanking her butt nothing works with this girl i am now pregnant with another child and im at the point of leaving my husband just to get away from her but i love my husband and hes the only dad my son knows and we are having another baby so i dont want to be a single mother of 2 im so lost and confused i cant keep living like this always paranoid and watching what is she gonna do next always angry or sad i have asked him if she could go live with her mother he wont do anything he just shrugs it off for the day shakes his head and says i know i know and then the same thing repeats itself every day i cant go visit freinds because she terrorizes their kids i got kicked out of curves because she beatup the daycareladys daughter help me help me help me please anyone what should i do
My first thought after
My first thought after reading this is....why wont your DH do something? If he says he knows there is an issue, but he shrugs it off, that tells me he understands that something needs to change, but he doesn't know how.
I would recommend seeing a counselor honestly...not just for your marriage but for these issues your SD is having. She obviously needs some help and I'm not sure JUST you guys can give it to her...especially if you are overwhelmed and your DH doesnt' know where to start.
I been there and I came back
I been there and I came back to it. When I meet my husband she was two too, she has made my life a NIGHTMARE!!!! Her mom pasted away and she also has issues with behavior. We have a son together and he's two and I left to protect him but came back because I loved my husband. My husband acts the same way about my step daughter, she has been kicked out of four schools and still gets gifts. I have lost love for my husband over the years... Pray and never stop...
aww thank u ladies ur
aww thank u ladies ur replies have touched me sincerely im very releived that im not the only one i know she needs help other than us but we live in a small town and everyone weve tried contacting says shes too young for their help i love my husband as well but sometimes i wonder is love worth my sanity and my sons well being and now a new baby i know this sounds horrible but i wish i could have my cake and eat it to such as be with my husband without her
I believe that your
I believe that your step-daughter needs some serious help. The behavior she is exhibiting is not normal for a five-yr.-old child nor was it normal at two. She needs to see someone a.s.a.p. Because of her overt sexual and violent behavior, it makes me suspect that she has been sexually violated and is acting out the only way a little child knows how. She may not know how to communicate what has happened to her. Your husband may be shrugging it off because he does not know how to handle it etc. I do not want to sound like an alarmist, but I am a professional who works with children, and my instincts tell me that she has possibly been violated. Please, check into this and take control of the situation before she grows up with further emotional damage that she may not be able to return from. Also, take her to church...Teach her about the Love of God. She needs to develop a relationship with the Lord. You and your children will benefit from that also. God Bless.
I agree...the overt sexual
I agree...the overt sexual acting out is a HUGE red flag. Get her help asap.
I think this child has
I think this child has probably been sexually abused. I'm no professional, but the fact that she was masturbating at 2 is disturbing and raises my antennae.
Please make your husband read this. It's an article that tells you the signs of sexual abuse in kids:
http://74.125.113.132/search?q=cache:q9a4OpdonnwJ:www.way2hope.org/signs...
Please also have your husband call her doctor, and tell them what you've told us. Have him ask the doctor for the name of a good child therapist in your area.
Please see to it that this child gets help ASAP.
i just wanna thank everyone
i just wanna thank everyone for there imput,opinions, and ideas its very nice to be able to vent and compare ideas and explore other options its hard to see all the angles when your so emotionally involved i let my husband read everyone comments and hes agreed to put her in counseling and we are gonna try some new ways of dealing with certain things i really hope things get better and im so thankful that so many of you cared enough to take the time and try to help us we are very appreciative of everything i will keep everyone updated with our progress and our efforts to make this work once again thank you