I've been married for a year and half and ready for the challenge but it has been nothing but a daily roller coaster ride. I am pretty even kiel and a few of my close friends and co-workers can't believe that I haven't broke down but I think I am getting to the final breaking point.

My husband retired from the military at the end of 2007. It was planned and had expectations that he would not have a problem transitioning from military to civilian life. He figured he would have a double income and signed off on many things he now can't commit to in the divorce decree which was finalized in early 2007. The biggest issue for him was finding a job. In 2008, he was unemployed submitted resumes after resumes. In Jan 2009, he finally took a job at a big retailer, making $9.20/hr., much less than what he was making in the military. During 2008 he paid his ex wife, child support, daycare expense and a few credit card bills of theirs. She was not going to budge on anything during his unemployement and made him pay half the daycare expense which was $600. Common sense tells me that when one parent is not working that the children would stay home. He barely made it but did. We also took the kids often so she could jet set to CA. In 2009, he could only afford to pay her $400 - $600. He has not taken on any new expenses since we married and I have taken on some of the burden.

I am angry because my husband is working his butt off to support her and she is under employed. She has taken 4 trips to CA this past year, purchased a new car, bought all new furniture, a dog, and money to buy her Corona. My husband is moving up fast in his job and has 3 pay increases. He his committed to his kids. On the other hand, she has this entitlement role, and wants it all and now. She took him back to court with the help of her fiance, and won. My husband works over 40 hours a week and now brings home $353 bi-weekly. He has his military pension and she is to get 7% but he can't give it to her because that is what makes his house payment. She took him back again for the pension and education fund and she won again. This women will not stop! Not sure how he is going to pay her since she is already taking half of what he is making plus get's all the tax breaks. When is enough enough! and why do the courts side with the women most of the time! I am hard working, and would do anything for these kids. I would support this kids on my own, if given the chance and would not want a dime from her.

Thanks for reading just the beginning of my frustation! it's been a long day..

I am committed to my husband and his kids and will stand by his side through thick or thin. I know this battle will last another 9 years.