It's always take, take, take with BM!!!!
Some background- My DH has a crazy ex (aren't they all?!?). They had 2 son's together (the first one might not even be my DH's, he doesn't know for sure). His ex had another kid, got married a year ago and they moved 6 hours away (one of the happiest days of my life). I guess her husband left her (about 5 months ago) for another woman (the one that she initially stole him from, drama AND karma }:) ). Well, now she moved back here even though she couldn't afford it. She has no job, her other babies daddy can't be tracked down for her to collect CS and so on and so on. So, we get SS's this last weekend and the youngest (10) is telling us how poor they are and how they have no food or school supplies. My DH pays his CS and then some!!!! So, DH goes and buys groceries for their home when we dropped them off! Did he even get a thank you? Nope! It's expected that he should not only pay CS and any bogus payments that she comes up with, but now he is responsible for buying groceries for her ungrateful ass! It just really ticks me off that he has to buy food for another household just so his boys don't starve!!! Oh, and she's tried pawning her other kid (that she had with her husband) off on me and my DH! Are all BM's just brainless and users or is it just the one I have to deal with?
Yes, my bad, he is
Yes, my bad, he is RESPONSIBLE for CS! NOT for buying groceries for the whole household! And school supplies?!?! I just find it annoying. Not because of the kids needing food, but because she just expects it from him and doesn't even say thank you!
I guess. After he bought the
I guess. After he bought the groceries, he gave her money to take the bus to get a food hamper and sign up for help for the school supplies. She used the money to take the bus alright... to a parade!!! Never went and got any food! Her priorities are just messed right up. She has money to go party and go away for the weekend with her sister, but doesn't have money for food! And she keeps making these promises to the boys that she's going to buy them an ipod touch and an xbox for their birthday (that is in 2 weeks)!!! I just don't get it :? . I guess if you're used to free handouts all the time, you just start to expect it!
Yup! Tell her to get a job at
Yup! Tell her to get a job at Mickey D's! That way she will get a paycheck and a food discount! Problem solved...
Ohhhhhhhh!!! I love this!!!!
Ohhhhhhhh!!! I love this!!!!
I may even take the incentive and pick up an application for her!!!
Yep - our BM works part time
Yep - our BM works part time and has for the past three years since the divorce. DH was paying her $2500 a month on a $4000 a month income and working weekends on small jobs to make up the difference. Once I put a stop to that and he now pays $1300 a month based on the state guidelines, she cries and moans about how she has to get food from the food pantry, public assistance, they were a Christmas sponsor family (meaning someone bought them a charity tree and gifts), and cancelled cable and phone. She also hasn't paid the very low mortgage for more than a year now. When DH recommends that she get another job or a better one, she says that she needs to take care of the kids (ages 13 and 15, one isn't even DH's), that she is "volunterring" with Sierra Club, and that she shouldn't have to work more than he does, LOL!! She has NEVER held down a full time job in her life so don't know where this comes from. She also blames DH in all court documents and to me saying that "she gave up an opportunity for a career for him" and that "he wouldn't let her get a degree". Bullshit - I asked if thats true, whats been holding her back the past three years they have been divorced? No answer of course. Lazy, skanky, pathetic bitch.