First let me give a little background, I am not new to the forum, I went by another user name. I changed it because my DH found out about this site. Now to the problem at hand, my DH's Ex-W decided she no longer wants to take care of your 13 yr old daughter so she calls my DH out of the blue and tells him when she arrived for her regular summer visit, she will not be returning home to her. Supposedly, the ex-w and my DH's daughter got into a physical altercation and she does not want her at her home anymore. She needs a "break" :jawdrop: Since when are parents allowed to take a "break" from parenting the children they procreated. She has not given any time line on when the child will be returning home (never). To give more background, this child come last summer and acted like such a fool, I lost my job (I work at home) because of excessive noise in the background while I was speaking with clients on the telephone. Yeah she went on a door slamming, cabinet slamming frenzy, all the while knowing that there cannot be noise in the background while I am working. Now when my DH told me about her coming to live with us, I tried to be supportive but she has been here since this past Sunday and was told what is expected of her, i.e. wash dishes (alternating with me), keep bedroom and private bathroom clean, wash her clothes, etc. Nothing heavy normal stuff that most 13 yr old should do to become self-sufficient as adults. She is here with me during the day while my DH works. She was has yet to wash a dish and her bedroom is slowing turning into a pigpen. My DH told her yesterday before she can go to her godmother's house for the weekend, he wanted her to clean her room and bathroom as well as wash her clothes. She tells him he should have told her early so she can make a schedule. WTF! :jawdrop: My DH told her she had 4 days to get to plan to do it Friday before she leaves. She tells my DH, she does not feel like making a schedule! WTF! Is this kid serious?!? I told my DH I am done! I will not be transporting her to and from school (yeah I was suppose to do that). I will not alter my lifestyle at all. His kid, his problem! He told me, why are you going to make it harder on me? WTF!?! I told him excuse me that is your child, your ex unexpectedly pulled this crap so put her anger and blame where it belongs, HER! Oh, another thing I forgot the mention when my DH blasted his ex for handling the situation the way she did, his ex told him she don't care about our household! WTF! Oh really! Really, well I told my DH that she and he can sink or swim. My kids are grown and I did not sign up to be a mother hen all over again! Can you believe this crap? I refuse to be involved!