To me undergarments are a personal choice of confort, if your kid wanted to wear boxer briefs instead of tighty whities I am sure that is okay but why care if she wears a thong? What is so gross about wearing a thong under you clothes that no one see's? It isn't like she is a stripper.

On the flip side, I am sure her mother bought them for her at some point so she probably has one of her parents permission.

I found a thong in SD11 (almost 12) laundry the other day.
Pretty sure her mom doesn't know about it and heck no does DP.
She's completely mortified by any panty or bra lines so I think that's why she has them. But she doesn't usually wear things that show her butt too much so likely it's for her peace of mind about lines.

I didn't say anything. Not my issue.

I do not find thongs inherently sexy or obnoxious. To each his own.

Unless of course the thong wearer is displaying them sexually. But that could be the case with almost any lingerie worn by a whorelette.

The first time I wore a thong was in my early 20's. I wore it when we went for a cruise date. I spent half the damn night pulling it and digging it out of my ass. Maybe I just have a massive ass but boy..that thing was so uncomfortable!

Maybe she doesn't want a panty line?

Also glad you threw them out. Good grief, I didn't buy my first one until I was 23. 12 years old is MUCH too young for that. Children don't need any help getting "sexualized". IMHO, those responsible for CHILDREN wearing thongs should be bitchslapped. A LOT.

Sd12 is old enough to do her own laundry if the sight of a thong bothers you so much. No I don't think her father should talk to her mother because her step mother doesn't like her choice of undies, how mortifying for a tweenage girl! Do you also dictate whether she must use pads instead of tampons since tampons penetrate and are the "devil's fingers?"

Since I see a glimpse of hair in your profile pic I'm guessing your domicile is not under Sharia Law so let the girl have some privacy concerning her choice of panties!

Ya - so what?? do you think she is walking around with just a thong on LOL? Some girls like them and there are no pantie lines. No big deal really - MYOB.

I think it's pretty bold for a 12 yr and would be concerned she's wearing them to be sexy since this is a normal age for sexual curiosity. I'd probably let my daughter buy thongs w her own money as an age guidline. Not sure what kind of clothing would require no panty lines at that age, to me- if the clothes were that tight, she probably doesn't need to be wearing those either. BM has sent SD7 over w training bras starting at age 6 but there are already hyper sexualization issues w her so i just toss em. Nothing bm can do about that besides stop sending them here. I just wont have that in my home. 12 yr olds need space and privacy so fine tune your approach so that it's respectful of that. She's also old enough to do her own laundry so there's that too.

I think the idea of her "feeling or wanting to be sexy" is more the issue and of greater concern than the type of underwear. Thongs do tend to signify a sexual flag, if you will. For a 12 year old to want to raise that "flag" is more concerning. I wouldn't have let my BD wear them nor did she ever ask. She still doesn't because lets face it, who wants that discomfort? But SD17 of course pulled that lark at 13/14 AND turned out she was sexually active. I would speak to your DH about her feeling like she should be sexy at 12. Frankly, us Moms teach our girls to be ladies and not sluts by our own behavior and by example. (I was educated by nuns LOL) Our BM acts and dresses like a slut and of course SD follows suit. It was only when DH found out that his little 13 year old girl was serving as a slam piece for a couple of high school loser dudes that he intervened. Sorry to be blunt but that is the truth. I am not sure there is anything you can do. Even if you "lose' the thongs, more will be purchased. This is one you probably have to let go. But do talk with your DH. Does he really want his daughter being sexually active and used by older boys, at 12 or 13?

My mother bought me my first thong to wear with a costume for a middle school play. I was 12-14, don't remember exactly. I thought it was incredibly comfortable and have ever since then. I asked my mom if she could start buying me those instead and she did. She only ever bought the hanes cotton elastic solid white, but I didn't care, I wanted the comfort. I've never had the ride up experience, or "butt floss" as some women say. It wasn't until I moved out that I started buying my own and got lace and "sexy" underwear".

But short shorty, I didn't think anything of my mom buying me a thong, or of asking her to buy me more...we also had a great relationship and she knew I was not sexually active.

My daughter cheered with a girl when they were 7 and when she was trying on her uniform for fit, the girl had on a thong. She was overweight. My guess is that full cover panties didn't cover her butt.

huh, you deleted my response or am I blind?

Just because I said - so what she wears a thong and MYOB about SD's underwear? Sheesh.

ha ha ha - I knew it! I am officially blind. Where are you? I can't see

My daughter is almost 12 and I know she'd be mortified at the thought of thong underwear. Changing for gym and having someone see her butt? Oh no! I would not buy them for her at this age anyway, I just don't feel it's appropriate for her age. I personally don't think even high school age is either, and as long as I'm paying for my daughter's underwear, I'll be picking it out.

Funny side note, when my SD was in high school and her mom found out she was having sex, she took all her thong underwear away, like that was going to do anything! BM was probably the one who bought it in the first place, and I found it absolutely laughable that she thought taking it away would stop her daughter from having sex.