Nothing more to add Echo is right, and I hope you see her point .... what would you do if your daughter had written this post and was tied up with a man who was visting his ex 4 times a week and lying to your daughter and buying his ex Victoria's Secret lingerie while he was supposed to be with your daughter. What would you tell your daughter to do. Sorry, but really, letting your daughter live in this situation is again as Echo said not teaching your daughter lessons you would want her to learn. Please don't assume your daughter doesn't know there is something wrong her, I am sure she does, and she is learning no matter how much a man disrespects you or makes a fool of you, STAY in the relationship. I am sure you know the answer here don't you. Good Luck.

Sorry to say but I think Echo is right as well.

However, if this relationship is worth something to you, and you think it is worth something to your BF as well, then maybe sit down and discuss it, I know its easier said than done, I have had issues with my BF as well but i always let him know that the lines of communication are always open. I dont particularly like confrontation but i will bring something up with him if I feel i need to and then we discuss it, resolve it and move on.

Have you spoken to BF about how it makes you feel when he does these things? And what the possible impact of your daughter seeing this behaviour might be??

The problem with lack of communication is that if you dont say anything then he thinks its ok with you coz you havent said anything......if you leave it too long however and then explode coz you cant keep it in anymore then he will more than likely blame you. Keep calm and rational even if thats far from what you are feeling inside and talk about it.

Hope that helps

Really???

She shouldn't have to tell her SO it upsets her when he gives his ex gifts from VS. She shouldn't have to tell him that his lies bother her.

This man has been unfaithful since day 1 - you need to ask the right questions... evaluate your self worth. I understand visiting his daughter... but not the Victoria Secret thing... and not dating ur ex husband!!! OMG talk about blurred boundaries.

This woman is out to sabotage your life holistically. You might find yourself happier without this person. Go and have a long break with you daughter... ask her how she feels about this man your dating, and spend 4 days thinking over the issue.. to see what ur conclusions are.

Im sorry this information may be a little hard to take it

BM is the single largest issue I can see here. BM is behaving like a siren to get attention and these men are giving it to her? Both of them?
SO really needs to grow up some, if he wants to keep you in his future.
I's suggest that you tell him that you are not willing to tolerate any more 'mistakes' on his part. Women like BM are just in it for the sport, she has no real 'emotion' for anyone and she played SO because she could. Knowing all his buttons to push and so on. BM here did the same thing, I objected, DH thought I was over reacting but then he saw the light.
Let him know what it would take for you to trust him again, if he cannot give you loyalty, fidelity or any of the good qualities you deserve then I really think it's time to stop wasting your energy on him.

I only had to read part of this; kick his A** to the curb; there's enough problems to deal w/ in relationships and to be honest I put up with a lot of B.S. But lying is NOT one of them; and he know's that. He bought what?!?!?!? V.Secret for her!! no way girl!! I don't even know you.........but I do know you deserve better than that!! Good luck to you

Your daughter is learning fast that A man is better than no man.
It is OK to be treated like crap because you have a man.
It is OK for a man to treat you like crap because you love him.
It is OK for a man to still be involved with another past partner. It means he is easy to get along with.

Buying gifts... either he is still into her and not into you with the same degree of passion or she is emotionally blackmailing him.
Either way he has to pull up his big boy pants and make a choice. Either he is 100% committed to you and your happiness or he isn't.

I suspect she has him by his short and curlies and is likely using their duaghter as a pawn. Or he is one big arsehole.

Either way, there is no reason to live with him anymore. stop having relations with him until he tests clear for VD/STDs.

Personally I would be moving on. You have no idea how impressionable a 17 yr old can be. My kids were teens when my ex walked out of their lives. 10 yrs on and he is STILL repairing damage he did.

Run!!!

BASIC RIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP

The right to goodwill from the other

The right to emotional support

The right to be heard by the other and responded to with courtesy

The right to have your own view, even if your mate has a different view

The right to have your feelings and experience acknowledged as real

The right to receive a sincere apology for any jokes you find offensive

The right to clear and informative answers to questions that concern what is legitimately your business

The right to live free from accusations and blame

The right to live free of criticism and judgment

The right to have your work and your interests spoken of with respect

The right to encouragement

The right to live free from emotional or physical threat

The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage

The right to be called by no name which devalues you

The right to be respectfully asked rather than ordered

This is from the book, "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" by Patricia Evans