I'm at the end, and ready to take my son and go. How can a 31 year old brat cause such heartbreak and chaos? I've been married for 8 years, and I love my husband, but he allows his sons, (mostly the oldest golden boy), to treat me with such disrespect, I actually hate myself sometimes for putting up with it. The cat is out of the bag now. I wasn't invited to ss first sons christening. My husband didn't go, which frankly shocked me. I only found out an hour before the ceremony started. I ran into my 8 y/o step granddaughter in the laundry room. She was all dressed up,it wasn't my other ss's weekend with his daughters. That's a whole different issue, he's 31 and moved back home with us for a couple of months to save money after losing yet another job. Now it's 9 months later, his new girlfriend stays here too, and dad is afraid to ask if he's saved enough to rent an apartment. He's earning a good salary,company car, contributes zero. So, I asked my husband why he didn't go to 7am mass like he always does. He said he was going later. I don't know if he was not going to tell me, and got caught when I told him I knew about the christening. Long story short, he didn't go. He said I did nothing to deserve this. Well, ss was drinking at after party, called and said he was coming to our house. I have experienced the wrath of this son before, screaming and swearing at me. I locked myself in the bedroom. SS is a cop, thinks he's above the law. It sounded like nascar in front of my house. He revved the engine of his Camaro like a maniac. I'm really surprised neighbors didn't call police. We have an autistic child next door, ss knows this. My son is 16, very good relationship with sd. He used to admire older ss, even wanted to be a stste trooper some day. That has changed, he's heard and seen too much. My husband and ss argued outside, he accused his dad of being a "doormat", because his ex, and ss mother used to have men over when they were married , getting drunk. She is a diagnosed bipolar. I don't know what that has to do with me. My 87 y/o mother in law, who I've always been close with says he should have gone to the ceremony at least. I don't know anymore. I think my husband is going to start to resent me, although he says no. SS hated every woman dad dated before me. They have a hunting trip planned across the country in 3 weeks with 9 other men. I don't know what my husband is going to do. I don't want to live like this anymore. I thought it would be easier since his kids were older. Any advise? Sue