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If I'm not included; should I include SD??

hbell0428's picture

Once; again I am the last one to find out SD13 is finally spending 1 day this month with her BM. Which is NOT the big deal at all; She is the oldest of the 4; and she kind of keeps an eye on the others (for an hour) till we get home. 11 and 9 (4 yr old in DCare) anyway; if she isn't there I really don't like my others home alone; so I have to scramble to find someone to sit with them. Why I can't I be let in on this?
A better example could have been used; but I think you get the point!! This is just the very latest and shortest to express.

So anyway; I make plans with the kids and then I am told by Daddy after all this -well she's not going to be here for that!?!?!? AAHHH really.

First of all should I have to discuss my ideas with my SD13 to see if it fits into her schedule and is it really that rude to want to do something with just my 3 other bio kids...
I haven't been able to do anything with just my BD11 in months since my BD has moved in because we/I am made to feel like it's rude to leave her out. Like it's my fault... :?

pastepmomof3's picture

what if it was one of the other kids? Would you question yourself? or just say oh well and keep going with your plan? I would guess a lot of it would have to do with your relationship with SD and what you were planning on doing. She's going to be with BM - you have every right to hang out with your kids...i see nothing wrong with this.

Good luck to you.

hbell0428's picture

Sorry; should have also made it clear that it has a lot to do with dad too.
But I have tried to have open lines of communication... Such as if I am standing right next to her, instead of her asking me or telling me what she is going to do; she'll scream for her dad or run around looking for him - like i really am invisible!!!!!!!!!
we have pulled her aside numerous times about this - but nothing changes - and dad doesn't stick to NETHING;
Okay thats it..... LOL

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