I knew it!
I knew BM would do this. She gets us all wound up with wanting to get the kids together and then we don't hear from her. I haven't asked DH if he told her I wouldn't leave my home because she wanted me gone for the skids to meet their half sisters. I just left it with telling him that I love him and would do anything, but leaving my home and kids was out of the question. The whole subject has been dropped now. DH has talked with his kids, but not BM, or so he says. I think he just doesn't want to discuss it at all with me. I just wish I could say "I told you so" in a nicer way. BM does this type of thing all the time. Mostly near my daughters' b-days, the skids b-days and holidays. That's usually when she's asking for more money or claiming she didn't get CS which is a bunch of bull. CS is taken straight out of DH's check, always has been. then DHS sits on it for a week or two (we pay weekly) and BM freaks out. Calling DH yelling and even calling his employer and bitching at them. It never ends. She's so hung up on DH that she can't stand for any of us to be happy, including her own kids. I just knew this would happen. By the beginning of December there will be more drama, I'm sure of it! How on Earth am I going to get thru the holidays this year? It's bad enough we can't afford to do Christmas the way my kids deserve it, the last thing we need is her crying & yelling.
By Christmas you (that is
By Christmas you (that is the bio-parent) has done this:
Gotten a court order setting out to the minute the visitation of the kids which you will proceed to follow to the letter.
Explain to the ex that she will adhere to it also. To the minute.
Further explain that if the ex does not adhere to the order she will be brought back to court and charged with civil and criminal violation of a court order.
If necessary do it.
End of drama.
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It may be that 50 years from now the only important thing you did in this life is to be important in the life of a kid.
I agree. Unfortunately with
I agree. Unfortunately with the way the judicial system works, this will never be worked out in time for this year's holidays. My suggestion would be to enjoy your holiday. Set it up for the kids to come and if she doesn't bring them, know that you have filed the necessary paperwork that will enable your family to enjoy the holidays every year afterward. Don't let her get under your skin. That's what she's trying to do. Kudos to you for not letting her dictate your presence in your own home.
That's how I feel exactly,
That's how I feel exactly, I'm not going to live by her rules or let her control us. DH just needs to learn how to tell her no with a lot of things. She needs to put her big girl panties on and live her life.
Yah i have my dh's ex who
Yah i have my dh's ex who does the same thing, she's start some crap just around thanksgiving, or x mas, or around bday especiallly now valentines day!!
She would use her daugther to tell my dh, oh you wont pick me up on this day becasue you dont love me and want to be with angel. My dh put a stop to it and said, i do love you, its not my time to pick u up, its during a school week night AND valentines day is not seen for Daughter and Father love. This day to me is seen between two adult people in love. So get this day out of your head unless you are with your boyfriend or husband. lol..
My dh thank god, put her in her place. BUt can you believe that SHIT! CAn you believe it what she said!!!!? Of course, on teh phone and only to daddy!
He also told his daughter, ' well you must not love your mom much if you want to leave her on this day eh???" SHe got angry at him for saying that and he told her, then dont play games with me young lady! How do you like it? how did you feel? DONT YOU EVER USE ME LIKE THAT AGAIN! I'm not a toy.!
Let's see what she will do this year??
I'm sure bm did this to her daughter just to get her out of the house to have it with her boyfriend, not caring the damage she's done to her eh?....
When bm starts this drama just ignore it, go ahead with plans and tell your dh he'll have to fix his way around them. Heis part of the new family and his kids can eiter choose to be part of it or not but xmas will go on without them there or not.
I plan things all the time with this attitude. Your there...great, your not..too bad.
man.. yall are kindof
man.. yall are kindof scaring me. this is the first time that we have had my ss full time, all the time and honestly i have been DREADING the holidays. i think instead of jingle bells this year, all i am going to hear for two or three months straight is the "Psycho" theme song ringing on our cell phone.