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Submitted by Conflicted on Wed, 01/09/2008 - 3:29pm

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Its Wednesday and DH has court tomorrow at 1:30pm. We're going for full custody and so is BM. I have a giant knot in my stomach, I'm nervous and scared and feel like I'm going to throw up.

I absolutely hate this part.... waiting to find out what a judge is going to decide will take place in your life.... putting your future in the judge's hands and just waiting....

God, I hope the judge sees whats really going on, at a minimum I hope that the court grants our request and orders a psychiatric evualation on BM and orders a GAL to the case and sets the hearing over so that we can gather even more evidence. BUT, I don't have a lot of faith in the system.
My dad always tells me, "let go and let God" but its so much easier said than done. My DH seems more at peace than I do and its not even my bio kids! DH says, whatever is going to happen is going to happen and we've done everything we can so now its out of our hands.

I know hes right but I just can't seem to calm down.

Any suggestions?

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Submitted by Rae on Wed, 01/09/2008 - 5:27pm

Hot tea, meditation and a really trashy romance novel???? :-). I know the waiting is terrible, but really you've already got the best of suggestions from your dad and hubby. You've done everything there is to be done. Worrying won't help you or anyone else, although I know that never really stops us from worrying! Just try to let it go, relax and find a mental state that will best help your dh and step kids.

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Submitted by Conflicted on Wed, 01/09/2008 - 5:48pm

I'm actually doing okay right now. I recently began drinking Green Tea, and surprisingly, it really does have some sort of calming effect. Thanks for the vote of confidence!

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Submitted by Rae on Wed, 01/09/2008 - 5:52pm

I love the stuff. And I'm not big on sweets, but a friend gave us some really awesome honey he harvested from his own bees, and that makes it even yummier!! Glad to hear you are doing better.

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Submitted by losingmymind on Wed, 01/09/2008 - 10:40pm

How did you request for a GAL and a psychiatric evaluation? I would love to do that. I just finished typing up new modification papers and I am so glad that I read your post. We do a lot pro se to keep costs down. I have an attorney that I do some work for that will appear if needed but we really try to do it ourselves. Can you tell me how you did that? I live in Kansas. I deal with a BM that goes from telling my DH not to ever email again to then telling him that she hopes she has a happy birthday all the while coming up with crazy stories and teaching SD to lie to us.

All we want is the child. I wouldn't even want child support from her just the innocent one.

Any help would be appreciated and of course good luck to you!!

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Submitted by Conflicted on Thu, 01/10/2008 - 11:48am

Both sides are requesting a Modification, both sides want custody. We are requesting a Guardian Ad Litem on behalf of the children as well as a psychiatric evaulation on BM. DH and I already voluntarily submitted to testing and we have a strong belief that BM suffers from some sort of personality disorder.

Lucky for us, I suffer from Depression and as a result BM keeps saying that I am mental, therefore our attorney may use me to get a mental health professional on board. She may go about it by stating that she wants to put BM's "concerns" to rest once and for all with a GAL that has mental health qualifications. That way, she can put my Depression on the table and call it what it is and hopefully come up with a diagnosis on BM.