My daughter is extremely close to her uncle and her grandmother. . And my boys love my mother and brother as well. they have gotten the point and are not getting in the discipline thing anymore. I love my mother and my brother they just went too far this last time. I'm still close to them . And I love them very much they're good people. . I don't believe in holding grudges are depriving the children of their uncles and grandparents.. I'm even still friends with my ex's father because my daughter loves her Grandpa very much and I'm not going to take her Grandpa from her. My problems was with her daddy not her Grandpa. . My stance is they did not get involved in our kids discipline this time only to explain to the other two children why . they paid each child the way they did.

Hubby is not mad because my brother paid all 3 kids he's mad because. My brother said something in front of the other two kids about why he was paying the one kid the same thing. . Specifically in front of my daughter . Hubby didn't care.the ADHD kid got paid too .

I have never told him he was childish before yesterday. And yes my mother has witnessed to me that's disciplining my daughter before but I was extremely relaxed about it. But her behavior has progressively gotten worse. I kind of wonder if some puberty hormones might have something to do with it. You also have to understand my stepsons were taken from their mother for neglect and abuse. My oldest stepson told me that his mother was never there for him. she was always busy partying and going to casinos with her friends. It got so bad my step-son attempted suicide at 11 years old while in his mother's custody. He's 13 now . After talking to Hubby and telling him that I felt like every time he got mad at them. he was threatening to take two stable adults out of his life and he was acting out by being mean to his step sister. And by the way he's not the child with ADHD. I have witnessed oldest stepson  showing enormous respect for my mother and brother trying to help my mother in and out of the house in the car. Helping carry groceries in Etc .Hubby finally admitted he overreacted and agreed to let the children go back to mother and brother's house . He did ask that my brother be careful what he says in front of the kids . About the other kids ..also I agree I felt like it was an employee-employer relationship and it was brothers time and money so he could choose how to deal with it . .....by the way what does DH mean ?? 

All 3 kids have home chores they do not get paid for. .Money is too tight to give an allowance except for special chores. The oldest and the youngest child all responsible for dishes and laundry. They rotate this chores so that it works out more even . Middle child is responsible for cleaning the living room and feeding his dog. Just his dog not all the dogs . My daughter feeds her dogs. We had them before. But you can't simply tell him to pick up the floor and vacuum. You have to say pick up that piece of paper put that cup in the sink put away that TV tray. Every chore requires a detailed description of how to do it. It's very exhausting. We do it anyway but it's very frustrating when it would take you 5 minutes to do it yourself. But since we're trying to teach him something we end up taking 30 minutes to do a five-minute job and an adult has to supervise. Middle child is 2 years behind in school. And therefore has the same homework as my child because they're in the same grade. You will take 4 hours to do what she can get done in 30 minutes. .  I will check hos answers and make him do it again. Dad would get big brother to check his answers and big brother usually didn't make sure they were right. But he's learning not to put just an answer on the paper step mom will check your answers and make him do it again. Dad would get big brother to check answers and Big brother usually didn't make sure they were right.(dad was usually at work ,and his brother had to check it) But he's learning he is getting quicker at doing homework but we're still looking at hour to an hour and a half a night.