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I don't know what to do. Parenting classes maybe??

SummerMomma719's picture

Ok so my DH and I are on 2 different pagers when it comes to parenting. I'm afraid that once our child is here there is going to be issues with parenting as we are different when it comes to that. Silly example, yesterday we were outside. Sd7 was playing with her cousin. They fond a bungee cord and thought it would be fun to play with. I don't agree with that. For obvious reasons. It's a bungee cord, it's dangerous, it's not a toy, And your 7! I said to him at one point that it was driving me nuts watching them play with it. He said "yea I kno" but didn't do anything. I told them I do t think they need to be playing with it an she just kind of looked at me and kept on going. Final at one point DH said to me " I wish the bungee cord would just disappear" so I said to him " your the parent she's the child, tell her she needs to put it away an tht it's not a toy" I asked him why he can't ever say anything to her or disain her in any way Nd he had NO answer. It pisses me off. He says I'm just too uptight an he's just really laid back. I feel like this will bring is to divorce over time once our child is here. I don't know what else to say to him because his only response is we just have different views on it. Good job at stating the obvious lol. Anyways I'm not looking to fight wth my DH as we get along great just are on different pages with this. Any suggestions on how to talk to him about this? I think we should have pArenting classes for parents who are on different levels. Think they have any of those??

Step-Volgirl's picture

My DH is similar to yours. When we were trying to establish joint household rules, we each wrote down what we wanted and we found a common ground. I can't think of a single family I know that doesn't have one parent who takes the role of "bad cop" most often. I still struggle with DH and I forming a united front in dealing with the kids (and BM). We generally try to back each other up, at least in front of the kids.

In the situation you described, it sounds like neither one of you wanted to "parent" the kids. I understand your wanting to take a backseat and let your DH do HIS job, but a simple, "Hey, SD, your dad thinks (or your dad and I think) the bungee is not the best toy. Bring it to him and go play with your bike (or other toy)." Especially after he acknowledged to you that he wasn't ok with it either.