how to disipline ss/sd
ugh! i wish i could type faster my fingers cant keep up with my brain. i'm goning nuts... bf and me sm(ish) come up with rules for the kids. he'll break them!!!!!!! here i am being the "bad guy" enforcing rules to kids who dont respect me at all and he lets them slide. they already like them duhhh why is it that i'm having to do the raising for him :sick: ---- bed time when i moved in ss-8 had a tv in his room not only that but his bed time was 9:30 but he could watch tv till he fell asleep wtf right? so 2am he's doing handstands on his bed school night btw.... failing his classes ugh!!!!!!! so bf and i talked about it(argued) anyway we decided bedtime 930 tv till 10 compramise (cant spell too mad). so my boyfriend works till 11pm during the week. i'm stuck but the enforcer. occationally he gets a few week days off tho he should be the one to turn off the tv Right? (it end in a freaking fit even after 8months) i want a break... so those nights i try not to do it.... my wonderful man doesn't do it either. i just wanna say fuck it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ice cream instead of dinner sure lose your toothbrush ok cool do whatever u want go for it ************!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! damn it i'm fucking pissed then there's bm's f*****g dumb B***h A** ugh no rules in fact the punishment over the is pack your bags i'm sending u to the house for bad kids. :jawdrop: the sm is the damn parent to 2 kids with 2 bps ugh F**K 
One...two...three... BREATHE.
One...two...three... BREATHE. lol. It sounds like you've hit the wall here. I know what I'm about to say is going to be unpopular but...it isn't up to you to discipline HIS kids. I'm not saying that they don't need it, I'm saying that by doing it, you're putting yourself in a bad situation of always being the 'bad guy.' Plus, just look at how it's stressing you out. So not worth it.
Once you've calmed down, explain to BF that you want rules ON PAPER, then go over each and every one with the kids. BOTH of you will have to do this. Explain the consequences of not following the rules. Here's my absolute favorite.... keep a separate list of rules with consequences for BF as well. make everyone sign their copies, post them in their bedrooms and at other areas around the house, ie... kitchen, bathroom, etc. This may help BF stay the course.
Best wishes for a calmer tomorrow for you.
AimlesslyWandering, this
AimlesslyWandering, this happens too often in stepfamilies. You are put in a mother role whetehr you want it or not, and I think many of us take it on with the hopes of a happy family and feel confident we can provide that. You can even agree just like you have but there has to be an eliment here for the child to understand......it doesn't matter whether he likes you or not, he does have to respect you as an adult and your husband has to see that he supports you as he would BM if she were living in the home still, OR the babysitter who has layed down the rules, OR the child's teacher. Your role is important and you have every right to your frustrations in this situation.